Hi Everyone.
First off, thank you so much for taking the time to even have a read of this, I know that there are lots of people who are in need.
I have been in a relationship with my daughters father for coming up 10 years and to be honest, I have never felt more alone. We purchased our home so that my daughter would have a stable environment, but that has not happened :( The drinking (my partner) is getting worse and worse. It is daily and verbal abuse happens almost daily, sometimes in front of my three year old. I really do not like it and I do not want her growing up thinking that this behaviour is ok, because it is not. I am made to feel like a told off child constantly. I do 99 out of 100 things I was asked to do and because the one thing isn’t done, I get told off. I work full time and look after my daughter all weekend while he drinks. I am studying part time for a degree also to better myself. I feel like it never stops and having COVID this week with absolutely zero sympathy and more telling me off has done me in :(
He keeps saying he wants to leave, but then won’t. I want him to go as I think we will all be so much happier.
However, this is the problem. My daughter is going to be going to a school in September which is by our house. My mum will be taking and picking her and and she lives just along the road. I therefore, want to stay in the house I am in, with my daughter. My partner said he doesn’t want to live in this part of town anyway as it’s difficulty for him getting to work. I have spoken to the bank, and as well as trying to find £45,000 to give him for his share of the house, I have to find an additional £80,000 to have his name taken off the mortgage so I can have it in my name only! They will only have my name on a mortgage that is £120,000 or less, which won’t even get me a flat!
I feel trapped in a loveless and semi-abusive relationship that is making everyone miserable and I cannot see a way out or any joy in my life at the moment :(
I want to stay in the house I love, and that my daughter loves and continue to work full time and provide a happy life for her, but it seems impossible!
thanks again for reading. Any help that anyone can give me, no matter how big or small would be so appreciated. I have not included any photos as I do not want more abuse off the back of this post,
Nat
@NatPad1984