<span;> Hello, I’m a 40 year old single dad of 2. I have a daughter that’s about to be 18 & a son that just turned 10. My son’s mother is an alcoholic that has attempted to demolish various aspects of my life. She gave her 1st daughter up when she was young & still doesn’t have a relationship with her.
<span;> I had to unfortunately leave our son with her a few years ago. I could no longer endure her verbal abuse & narcissistic habits. I know she had a broken childhood but that doesn’t excuse the behavior. I tried for a little over a decade to be someone she could count on. The dysfunction she is used to wasn’t there, so she created it. I didn’t want to leave our son & expose him to who she becomes when she is under the influence. She gave me no choice after all I endured. I hoped and prayed she’d stop binge drinking because I wasn’t there to protect him from her. Instead, he has unfortunately learned why I left. I feel guilty that he had to learn the hard way. I felt like I abandoned him, but I had to become better for him, my daughter & myself.
<span;> I used to try to co-parent but everything became about her no matter the subject. She has control issues & tries to micromanage how I parent. So, I have minimal contact when I pick him up & drop him off.
<span;> This last year has been the worst. Her manipulation tactics, verbal & mental abuse has increased. She’s apologetic after she sobers up & promises to change. He told me it’s been very close to becoming physical a few times. I have decided to fight for custody.
<span;> To anyone reading this, your blessings will not return to you void. I have numerous pages & types of documentation to prove she’s unfit to keep him any longer. I’ll name a few to share with you. She has had (3) DWIs, went to jail last year for DWI & assault, lots of drunk texts & screenshots, his attendance & tardy record, she has coached our son into lying to me & interrogates him, she makes him take medication to quiet him so she doesn’t have to parent him (even though it makes him physically sick & unable to eat), she stole my car & sold it (admitted on text), has been to a mental facility, & lots more. The biggest influence will be the testimony of our son. He has expressed his frustrations for a long time & is fed up. He is willing to share his experience with a judge. He doesn’t want to go back to his mom’s house anymore. He has asked her many times if he can come live with me permanently. She says absolutely not & turns on the water works.
<span;> Our son has been influenced by her pessimistic habits for too long. He is at peace when he’s with me. In the past few years, he has gotten into trouble for trying to choke & cut himself at school, making comments about harming himself & others, makes comments about self-hatred, & other things. She steals his money to get alcohol & he goes hungry. I just need a little assistance with hiring the proper representation needed. Then he can escape her grasp. I will never keep my children from their mom unless there is a logical reason.
<span;> He needs the opportunity to understand that words & actions become behaviors, which turn into habits over years. It will take time to practice new behaviors. If we are willing & open to change, we can identify the character defects with accountability. If it’s possible, please help me make this transpire before it becomes difficult. He is building resentment & bitterness towards her. I dont want her to corrupt his little mind any longer. I just need an opportunity to mold his mind.
<span;> <span;>I’m asking for funding for attorney fees for custody. I have executive conservativeship of my daughter but didn’t need an attorney. I am not sure how much fees will cost. I’m asking for $4,000. Thank you for reading this much & regardless, I’m pray this over you.
<span;> Father God bless this person reading this with Your countenance, favour, love, & mercy! Wrap them in Your arms & fill them with Your fullness of joy. As we continue our lives Lord, lead us with Your Spirit to be steadfast & abide in You. Reveal our next steps, when & where we should take them. Remind us to live in remembrance of your Son that shed His blood for us all. May we continue to seek You in triumph & tragedy as we glorify Your name. As we advance Your kingdom, let Your will be done. In the precious, matchless, & mighty name of Jesus! Amen
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