I can’t believe I am asking complete strangers for money. This is not me, I have spent my life being an independent person who took care of people, not asking to be taken care of. I guess it’s true, you never know where life will take you. Let me start 53 years ago. I was a young gay man of 18. I had just graduated high school and was getting ready to start college. My father unexpectedly dies of a coronary. At that point, my plans changed and I stayed home to support my mother for the next 12 years till her passing. Don’t get me wrong I never once regretted this, in fact, it was a great privilege to take care of such a great lady. I turned 30 and found myself alone as well as lonely. I had never been in a relationship mostly because I was never able to come out to my mother and other family members, please note this was 1980 in a small southern town. It was easier to live in the closet.
At this point in my life, I decided it would be about me. I sold our house and all possessions and moved to Madison, WI. I needed a big city where no one knew who I was. I don’t know if I was so desperate for someone in my life or it’s true that you meet that someone when you least expect it. I met a young man that was 7 years younger than me and we truly fell in love. The next 41 years have been the most amazing roller coaster ride anyone has ever had. I love my now-husband, even more, today, if that is possible than the day we met. These 41 years are a love story of success financially as well as personally. We have been truly blessed with a wonderful life that I would not change one iota.
Two and a half years ago my husband had a deabiliting stroke that left him unable to walk. I was still working at this point. Due to circumstances my husband is unable to get health insurance. I was told by the hospital he would need to be placed in a extended care facility. We found on in Edgerton Wi that was close to our home. I cost $700.00 a week. There was no way we would ever afford that. I was fortunate that our house had sold. I had an auction service come in and take all our furniture and personal posisions down to the bed sheets to there auction house. When the hospital released my husband from the hospital he then found out our house was gone along with everything we had accumulated over the last 38 1/2 years. I had no choice because I could not take care of him in our home with stairs outside and inside. I rented a apartment and took him there. I used much of what money we had from balance of house sale and furniture to buy medical equipment that would allow me to take full care of him ( I was 69 years old and not in good physical health).
The good news is that because John is so stuborn and motivated with the help of theripy he is now walking again. This is something the doctors didn’t know if it would happen or not.
Any money left from sale is now gone, we have been surviving on it. I receive $1,200.00 a month SS. John has no income at all. After we pay all living expenses and buy food we have very little left to live on. I have rent money thru August then I don’t know what to do. I am 71 years old and in failing health. I have been trying to find a job, any job, but no one wants to hire a 71 year old man who can no longer do any physical labor. Our rent is $868.00 per month and we are short around $700.00 with no unexpected expences.
If there is anyone out there that could possible help for a month or two that would be fantastic.
PS I realize there are many people who are worse off than we are and we still have each other so I am a winner anyway!