My name is Tammy, and I am 63 years old. I have been married for 17 years to someone I loved with all my heart; the only person I thought I could count on to be there for me always. But the last few years through several major upsets in life (family sicknesses and deaths and a sudden beloved pet death back-to-back), I felt my husband slipping farther away from me.
Then when Covid 19 first started getting bad in March 2020 I found out my husband had an online girlfriend. At that second, I felt my whole world crumble around me. I had never felt that kind of pain in my life. I couldn’t believe he would do that to me. But he did! They had never met, she lived in another state approximately 12 hours away, but they were making plans to be together.
I didn’t know what I was going to do. I hadn’t worked in about 10 years due to health reasons and I had no savings built up. I called around looking for help but kept running into dead ends. There was always a reason why I was not eligible for help, but the majority of the reasons were because I still lived in the same house with my husband and his income had to be considered which was over the limit for assistance. I couldn’t get assistance until I move out, but I couldn’t move out with no money! I was stuck. After a year I became eligible to get my social security retirement early. I still couldn’t afford to move out. Even renting one room in a person’s house was over my budget. Every apartment with rent based on income had waiting lists so long that they were no longer adding to the list.
For over 2 years he has been telling me he doesn’t want me anymore and that if he stays with me, he will never be happy. He wants young, sexy, slutty women. Hearing him say this to me feels like a stab in my heart every time. His girlfriend turned out to be a scammer and he has gone from one scammer to another. He lost his job for over a year, finally got another job, and lost that one after a few months. He has done some handyman-type jobs off and on, but all his money has been going to his girlfriends. He has not paid any bills in 2 years except for a very few. I have paid car insurance, phone bill, food, gas, and my credit card bill. I can’t afford anything else. I can’t even manage to save anything for deposits when and if I find a place to move to. I was able to get some assistance with the rent and power bill for several months but that is over with.
Our power company is demanding $2300 in 2 days, or they are disconnecting us on August 11. Our landlord is demanding rent which is $700 a month. I am not sure if it’s 2 or 3 months owed for that since he deals with my husband and the lease is a verbal agreement.
I don’t know what is going to happen to me and my 2 cats. One is an elderly one and not in good health. I need help paying off these debts and I need rent deposit and electricity deposit possibly. Then I should be able to re-start my life without him. I have only a few friends and family and none of them are in a position to help. So here I am on a begging site, my last hope. If anyone can help with any amount, I will forever be grateful. Thanks to everyone who has read my dilemma.