Hi Everyone — I’m not sure exactly where to start, but let me begin by saying that asking strangers for money is something I never thought I would have to do. But I’m in a position now where I don’t have a lot of options, and I would greatly appreciate any help I can get.
I’m 24 and have a salaried job and currently live with my mother. We don’t have a lot of space and don’t have the best relationship. I was living with my dad in Maine once I graduated college, but I had to move closer to where I got a job (in California). My dad and I had a very close relationship and I was able to talk to him about anything. He was the one helping me with paying for my school and student loans once they started becoming due. Last year, I got a text from my brother that there was an emergency and I needed to call my dad. I did but he never picked up. My aunt answered the phone and told me that my dad had committed suicide. I physically collapsed and felt like I couldn’t breathe. My life has completely changed since that day. After he died, my mom, brother and I had to fly across the country last minute so plane prices were extremely high. Bills started to accumulate quickly – funeral costs, plane tickets, and paying to have all of my dad’s sentimental and valuable items shipped across the country to where my brother and I lived.
Even though my job pays decently well, with all my own personal bills, student loans, plus the money that was lost by having to take care of business for my dad, it is hard to make ends meet every month. My mom and I are trying to fix our relationship, but we are at the point where living together is not good for either of us. I have had terrible anxiety and stress since my dad’s passing, and even with going to therapy I don’t think I am able to handle getting another job. I work from 8 – 6 most days, but frequently I will have to leave later than that if there is more work to be done. I’ve looked into things like Uber and Doordash, but based on the year of my car I don’t meet the qualifications. My job only pays once a month, so that is another added level of stress and budgeting I have to account for. I currently have under $200 to stretch me until I get paid on the first of next month (picture attached)
I need to move out, either by myself or with a roommate, but currently that is not financially possible. I wish this was not the position I was in, but I am eternally grateful for anyone who is able to contribute anything to help. My dad dying turned my world upside down, and I really just want to be in a place where I can continue to heal healthily and with less anxiety and stress. If anyone can help, I would greatly appreciate it. God Bless