I am a 42 y old man living in Italy. The hard situation i am facing started a few months ago, once i decided to host my girlfriend at home, where i already live with my 75 y old mother.
My girlfriend came from Spain, where she worked around 10 years in the gastronomy field as waitress. Around 1 year ago, she started planning to come to live in Italy and obtain citizenship, as his father and many of his parents are italian.
Unfortunately, the document necessary to allow her to work is late and we are stuck waiting the times of bureaucracy. It seems possibly we have still to wait 3 to 4 months.
Before letting her come here, i already imagined that this could become a trouble, but i had no choice, because originally she had the plan to work for a restaurant here in the city, where the owner offered her a room to stay for a very cheap price, but soon the situation get a bad turn, because about two months before she came here, i decided to check this restaurant to see if everything was ok. This check, i wanted to do even because she often said to me that this owner had ambiguous behaviors and she started to suspect he was a alcohol and drug addicted as she was also afraid this guy could led to problems on the work place, even if not harassment.
So i decided to go in this place and see with my eyes how this restaurant was. I discovered this place was not just a restaurant but even a sort of Lounge Bar, with pooltables and was clearly not well attended.
I then inquired to get informations about that place and it came out it’s known to be attended by criminals and Police is often there to control or to intervene for some reason.
At this point, i felt i had no choice, i couldn’t expose my girlfriend to such a risk, so to my conscience, there were no other options rather than host her here.
But consequences came out soon, as me and my mother we had to host a person that is still not working and at that time we already struggled to get to the end of the month, as i work as a delivery carrier and my mother is on pension.
My girlfriend is actually costing around 250 Euro/month more on our domestic balance. So we started to use the credit card to get some money in advance, but in a few months, we found ourselves with 1.400 Euro of debt any month. Obviously any time we pay this debt through the bank account, we stay with very few money to live the rest of the month, to pay the bills, to pay the rent of the apartment and to pay the installements for the car that also costs 150 Euro/month for other 2 years.
Last month we were not capable to pay the gas bill (650 Euro) so we asked parents to help, but now we cannot make it again.
I am seriously concerned about the risk to lose the roof over our heads, as the last month we were not capable to pay the rent. Now we paid the current month rental, but we still have the past month to pay (550 Euro) and we are afraid we could not pay again next month for the rent of the apartment, because simply we risk so much to do not have the money to pay.
I am also very much concerned about my mother, that is 75 y old and facing a severe nervous breakdown, she is constantly upset and she talks as there is no way to get out of this situation. The situation at home is terribly heavy and depressive since all this situation started.
What we should need, would be 3000 Euro (or 3200 Dollars), so to pay back all the credit card debt (1400 Euro), pay the last month apartment rental (550 Euro) and additional 1000 Euro to essentially pay food to my girlfriend till she will have a job, that is realistic to happen in 3 to 4 months, considering the time we are told we need to wait for her to have the document to allow her to work.
I know the amount asked is huge, so, obviously, any kind of help would be so precious.
My Paypal Account is : marco-di-fulvio@proton.me