To anyone out there who can help,
I am a Canadian man, with a simple job in IT working near minimum salary, driving 2 hours daily to get to work, trying to provide for my mother who’s trying to make it as a paint artist and my spouse who fell into a deep depression. I am at the point where I am so close to losing everything, and all our dreams shattered, unable to even afford a simple and quiet life.
I have tried so hard to get my spouse to get and keep her job working in a pharmacy, as science has always been an interest of hers, but since she was a child, learning has been a great struggle after suffering a head injury that nearly took her life. Due to that injury, her social skills and mental focus were out of focus, and her childhood got more and more painful, as she faced constant bullying and ridicule from people at school.
The only ones to support her were her parents, and she did everything to try and make them proud all her life, craving their approval despite all her struggles. She wanted to study in bio-chemistry, but her classes were expensive and her parents could not afford to continue paying for her studies when she got half-way through.
Following this, her parents divorced, so her only pillar in life, being her family, had crumbled down and she had been spiraling down into a deep depression ever since. Having faced depression myself, I understood how she felt, and I tried oh so hard to help her out.
On my end, I was smart in school, but I faced my own hardships and depression, and had a long history of being bullied and ridiculed. After High-School, I tried studying in college in the field of Administration, but soon after I began my courses, my brother, who was afflicted with cystic fibrosis, had died at the young age of 21, and I could no longer focus at school, so I had quit.
Once I had quit college, my father kicked me out of my home, with nothing and no money. I struggled to survive and did any odd job here and there to afford a small apartment. Much later in my life, having had friends who knew a lot about computers and thanks to the knowledge I gained from them, I finally landed me a dispatch job working for an IT company. By that time, I had met with my spouse and we were living in a small and cheap apartment together. I was supporting her on my own, but our budget was tight and I kept taking in the anxiety and stress as I was hoping she could pick up some strength and start working anywhere. A year followed after we moved in together, and I helped her land a job at a pharmacy, working in the lab area where she would prepare prescriptions for clients.
On my mother’s end, she and my father were already divorced when I was just turning 18, and she had little to no money, living with a man she had met who was heading to retirement from his job working IT and cable installations. Once retired, he decided to move in a faraway village 5 hours from our hometown, and she had moved with him.
After I got my job working for the IT company that took me in, my mother expressed her desire to move back to our hometown, and cash in all her retirement funds to make a down payment for the small home we currently have.
Everything seemed to be picking up, though we were barely making it with our salaries combined, me and my spouse, and my mother would stay at home and try to make it as a painter, which has not worked out so well thus far as she has trouble getting to have her paintings win some more visibility and getting people to buy them.
After only half a year in, my spouse sunk deep back into her depression due to drama at her workplace and her feelings of failure and regret for not having completed her college studies. Her doctor put her on sick leave, so we sent the application for salary insurance, but her work insurance somehow does not believe in depression and they refused to assist her. We’ve almost gone through all our savings and are on the verge of losing everything, with no one around we know who can help.
I am hoping someone out there can give a helping hand so we can heal my spouse, get her education, help my mother complete a course for starting a business so she can succeed as an artist and reach her dreams, and hoping that I can finally get a breather in life so I can look for a job that pays more than near minimum salary.
I am trying this site as one of my desperate and last resorts. Whoever can help out, bless you! I have spent my life giving an giving, and I know it’s great to give, but it’s horrible to get to the point of begging for help. I don’t know how this all works, and I wish that, one day, should we all recover from this, I can repay and help out as to give back for what’s been given to me.
Thank you, for having read about my story at least, even should you be unable to help us out. Wishing you all a great and happy life.
Note: The post’s image is one of my mother’s paintings, in her Nature category. She’s extremely talented and also specializes in painting people, and does requests. I am hoping so very much that she can pierce through that market and get people to notice her work.