This is a long shot but I will be so grateful if someone reads and helps. Thank you so much in advance!
My husband does not know I’m asking for money. He is the hardest working man I know and I’m just trying to go out on a whim to help him do what he’s trying so hard to do. He currently has three jobs and here’s why.
We have three daughters, we just moved to our current state about a year ago. My husband got hired on with an investment company after working in law enforcement for 5 years. Law enforcement was draining for him and after thinking hard about this decision, we decided that he needed to find a different career. Our marriage was in the rocks. Working in that field of work will do that. Just as he was looking for a new opportunity, he tore his Achilles tendon playing football at church with the youth group that he helped out with. That put him out of work and on disability for 4 months. But oh wait… his disability got denied for 3 months. We were scraping by but no big deal, people get by like this everyday.
He had surgery and we hoped would recover fully and be able to go back to work until he found a better and more healthy line of work for our family. He was never able to go back to working in that field due to the fact that he still to this day can’t run and is therefore not considered 100% able.
That happened November 15th, 2021. Fast forward to February 2022, we took a step in the dark (because we didn’t have much money) and paid for my husband and I (my kids stayed with my sister) to fly out of state for an interview at my cousins investment company. We were gone for 5 days. In that five days, our water heater (located in our laundry room inside our house) burst and flooded our house for 5 straight days. We literally lost everything. By the time we got home and stepped into our house, there was already mold on the walls, in the walls, EVERYTHING was wet and absolutely ruined. It was devastating. We thought it couldn’t get any worse but unfortunately everything went down hill from there.
My husband accepted the job he was offered at the investment company, he drove all the way across the country to start work while I stayed back and took care of the insurance nightmare with our house. That was a really hard time for us, living apart and my daughters missing their dad but it was all in the name of making a better life for us, a more healthy life. In that time, I was staying in a hotel with my girls, and our things from our flooded house that weren’t ruined (guns, gun safe, jewelry etc..) were placed in a storage unit in a different location during repairs. One night, someone broke into the storage unit and stole my husbands guns, his great grandfathers shotgun, and gun safe. They took irreplaceable family jewelry, they even stole my three girls’ piggy banks. That broke my heart the most. At that point, I hadn’t seen my husband in 3 months, the house wasn’t done being repaired and in fact, no where near being finished. I made the decision to move anyways. I took was little we had left and drove my kids and our dog across the country in hopes that I could manage dealing with the contractors and listing of our house once repaired form across the country. All is well, we get to our new state, 4 months later, our house is fixed and we sell it. We didn’t make all that much from the sell but enough to put down on another little house and start our lives in our new state with my husbands new job. It took us 2 months to find a house we liked and could afford. My husband started out at a lower wage but was contractually promised a raise after 10 months of good work. 3 more months passed and literally the very day after we closed escrow on our house, and the day before my husband is supposed to get his raise, my cousin announces that the company had gone belly up, they’re shutting business down and my husband was FIRED. My cousin fired everyone. Not even laid off, he fired them. My husband came home crying. Balling. Didn’t know what to do or what he did to deserve that. My cousin then took all my husbands business leads from the past 10 months and made money for himself. He never actually shut down his business like he said he was going to but did a hostile take over of the company from the co-owner of the company and cut any and all ties with ever everyone involved. My cousin and the co owner are still in legal battles to date.
Here we are, in a new state, my husband is jobless, we have this new mortgage payment and it is yet again a struggle. It’s been 4 months since that happened and my husband is severely depressed. He feels like a failure. He’s regretting even leaving law enforcement but I know in my heart it was the right thing if we can just get passed all this. He went and got his real estate license. He got it in 4 weeks, he studied until 4am multiple nights and passed the test the first time! Now he has to build clients in this new state where we don’t know anyone which has proven to be a lot harder than it seems. He also got a job at an excavation company and he works for 6am-3:30. He comes home, starts real estate and just got a position as a sales rep for a flooring company and he will do that from 6-8 pm. The man is a hard worker. He really needs it be cut a break and I just see his happiness fading. I’m worried about him. We don’t have the money to move back, but we don’t have the money to move forward. We have young kids and if I worked, it would only pay for their daycare at this point. I take night classes at the local college and shop for instacart. I am also working on getting my real estate license but the problem is that it costs $2,000 to become a member of the real estate board, then you have all the testing fees and such. We are on our last month of emergency funds that we had saved up. With what my husband is making now, we are still $2,000 short every month. It’s terrifying. I don’t know what we’re going to do next month. But I know that if given just 3 more months, we I will have my license, and we could really get our feet back on the ground. I know we’re going to be okay but I just want the best for my family and am worried. Our bills total $3,600 per month. Anything helps and if this works, I will cry tears of joy and be so so thankful. Thank you so much for reading.