I was in a relationship for 5 years when my partner decided to work abroad for 6 months. This was hard but I wanted to fully support him so I waited. Paying the rent on our house alone. 6 months went by and he’d then received a new job abroad and told Me that it would extend his time abroad for another year. I decided to stick with him on his decision and waited still paying our rent, bills, etc by this point I couldn’t afford to pay it from my wage so I started using my credit card. A year went by my debts increased and then heard he’d received a promotion which extended his stay by another 2 years. I made it very clear that Id stick with him but at the end of this time we’d have to workout whether I should move out or he returned. We agreed we’d do this. I moved back with my parents to lesser my debts and started paying them off. Our contact was lesser but 18 months very hard month went and I received a phone call randomly saying he’d be returning suddenly next week. I was thrilled by the idea. I made sure that I got a rented house for us sorted paid the deposit. Took all his stuff out of storage which I was paying for and made our new house a home ready for him to return. He returned on June 2nd 2014 after waiting over 4 years for his return and things seemed great. 2weeks into him being back and him travelling to his new job in the neighbouring town I had a message saying he wanted to talk. So I met him that evening at home and he said he wanted to end our relationship. I was devastated,I was heart broken. All that effort. All the waiting. And he ended it. He came clean and told me he’d had an affair abroad and had to leave the country because of it and that he’d come home only to Persue another affair in the neighbouring town. 5 days later the removal men turned up took his things away with him and I was left with only the tv and the dog which in no way was he taking after I’d cared for 4 years of him. What he did leave me also with was £10000 worth of debt which then grew to 17000 whilst trying to pay the rent on my newly agreed 12 month rented house.
This happen to me 4 years ago and I’ve been ever since paying the minimal debt as it’s so high.
I’m now in a new happy relationship and in hope of buying a house but I can’t do it without clearing my awful debts.
If anyone could help me you’d be giving me a new shot in life.
I’m currently stuck at £13000 in debt.