My name is Mariah and I’m a new mom to a beautiful baby girl. A little about me and my husband- I am a social worker for a health plan. I spend my days visiting the homes of clients (mostly elderly) and completing an assessment to ensure their safety. I then will set up services (PCA, nurse visits, etc.) and order equipment/supplies (wheelchair, walker, Ensure, incontinence supplies, etc) to assist them continue to live as independently as possible. My husband is the hardest worker I know and spends his work days in a semi truck, delivering goods all around Minnesota! I am thankful he doesn’t go too far and gets to come home every night. We were high school sweethearts and have been together for 8 years (9 in December!) and have one child – our new baby girl.
So speaking of that sweet baby.. Her arrival into the world did not go as expected. Her little heart hadn’t been responding well to the intravenous induction medication they administered to me and she also became very stuck after 2.5 hours of pushing. So because of these two factors, my OB decided it would be safest to continue with a cesarean delivery. I was then brought downstairs to the operating room and opened up while wide awake, feeling every cut, poke and grab, shivering with adrenaline (and because of the stylish paper gown I was wearing). But it was all SO worth it, because my little ray of sunshine entered the world.
Fast forward to four weeks post partum.. The hospital bill is crazy, as I had to stay a few more days to ensure I was healing properly, ya know, not infected or bleeding internally.. hospital bill aside, our own bills had piled up as they do and here I am, telling our story and asking for help from kind strangers.
I would like to add that my husband stayed home for the first two weeks because I needed extra help at home (since you’re not allowed to lift more than 10 lbs and moving with my incision hurt almost more than contractions did). This means my husband also missed work for the days I was in the hospital and then the extra 2 weeks. This is a lot of work to be missed between both of us since we bought a house in November of 2018 and have our budget figured out to the last penny. We bring in quite the average amount of money, but it has been made clear to me that we live in a world where two have to be working to make ends meet in a household (and that’s without the unplanned surgery, hospital stay and missing work).
I don’t want to ask for anyone’s money without them knowing that we are very responsible people. We truly budget like crazy- I haven’t had my hair done for years, I do not buy food or drinks when out with friends (fun.. I know!), we do not buy new clothes or any materialistic things, we haven’t gone out to eat since before our wedding in November of 2017 because we had decided to put everything extra towards my school loans and saving for a house (we planned for a baby a few more years away.. we are so happy to be parents, just would’ve liked to prepare better financially for her).
We knew to embrace and plan for the unexpected, but the combination of missing extra days of work and the unplanned c-section with extra days in the hospital, we could really use money for bills and other things important for survival (hospital bills, mortgage and groceries). Our monthly outflow of money is around $3,200 (mortgage, school loans, food, gas, utilities) and anything extra could go towards the (just shy of) $20,000 hospital bill. Thankfully, medical bills do not have interest, so we will be paying the minimum and focusing on staying ahead on bills. I’m hoping this reaches someone who would like to help a new family start their life with a little less debt! I hope to revisit this site someday after my debt is gone to continue the chain reaction of kindness. Thank you so much for reading!