Please. Yes Please. That is the first thing I will say. Because I honestly need some help please. My fiancée Sophie, who is the love of my life and means everything to me, has gone into a psychiatric intensive care unit. Ever since I met her she has had some deep problems from her past, but it was never an a real issue until recently. However, they have now surfaced due to some family circumstances, meaning she needs a lot of help and support. I’m giving her everything I can: love, support, strength, but the one thing I cannot give is money and it kills me. Arghh! How I wish it was so easy to just have money to give, so that she could get the right help and support she so desperately needs.
It’s hard because I’m a scientist, but being in academia the salaries are very low – you don’t go into science for the money for sure! You go into science for the love of it and the curiosity. It’s long hours and very draining and what I have left I give all to Sophie, but it’s not enough. As much as I give her, I’m not trained to deal with what she is going through. I can’t even understand it and how hard it must be for her. I wish I could click my fingers and make it go away, but I cant. I wish I could think of some fast cure, but I cant. It doesn’t work like that as I’m sure you know!
There are twofold reasons that I need money. First is to be able to pay for the proper care for Sophie. Not only does she need good doctors and psychiatrists helping her through the recovery, but the cost of keeping her in a suitable psychiatric facility is costly. I’m already heavily into our savings and cannot last much longer. It will not be much longer before I cannot afford proper care for her and that really destroys me, because she deserves it so much and just because I’m not some corporate businessman or something shouldn’t mean she cant have the same care and treatment as the top people in society.
Second is of course the regular bills that I need to pay to live, such as rent, utilities and food. I’m trying to cut back and save everywhere I can, but its no where near enough. Everything I have spare is going towards Sophie’s care.
Ultimately the problems stem from her parents and her childhood. It’s not her fault. I wish I could change things, but I cant. We just have to deal with things as they come. You can choose your friends, but you cant choose your family!
Please, anything you can give will help me give Sophie the right care and support she needs to get back on track. Who knows, she could be back to the smiley and happy person I know she is one day. I hope so anyway.