So, it’s been something I’ve always known, since I was 6. I need my own place. Why not just tell it like it is? I know it’s not socially accepted to ask money to buy your own home (not sure why, though, since we all deserve the right to have our own space). But I decided to do this after many years of ups and downs, a whole decade of serious struggle to barely survive, and the past four years in which I almost made it thanks to an investment I made, but then the company had problems and stopped making any more money (it wasn’t as scam, it was legit, but those are the ones that end up paying for the real scams, and we recovered the money, it’s just I don’t have any other source of income now and it’s been almost a year since then).
For the past year I’ve been living in a flat in northern Spain, that me and two other siblings just inherited from our father, but the flat is going to be sold. After that I’ll be left without a home again, and the money we can get for the flat isn’t enough for each of us to buy even the cheapest flat in this area. I wish it was, but the place we inherited isn’t worth that much. They won’t let me stay for much longer either, since they both need the money as well. After that I’ll have to move somewhere else and share a place, and if that goes on for long, my part of the money will be lost in rent and expenses. That will be the last chance I have to get my own place, so I can’t “burn” it that way. That’s why this is a crucial moment for me, and I must do anything I can to achieve this goal.
Some people who are reading this will relate. Some will think this is stupid, or selfish, or greedy, or lazy. Others will think it’s a good idea and might even try it themselves -I hope you succeed! I think it should be everybody’s right, to own an ok-sized space of their own to live in. Not a rented one, or a “you can live here as long as you obey this and that” one. One that you have full rights to, that no one can take away from you. That’s just basic human rights. One day it will be. For now, we can only rely on our own ability to make the money to buy such place (those who easily get jobs -I don’t seem to be one of those, as my abilities don’t seem to be what employers look for-, for those with successful businesses, those who are lucky enough to find a proper asset that won’t stop making money for them…), or other people’s empathy and generosity. Or both.
When I was kind of wealthy for a couple of years before it all went down last year, I discovered two things that really made me think: first, how having money makes life so much easier and simpler, and how it brings out the “best” and the “worst” in you, so you can actually know yourself better, and choose how you want to be, and what you want to do with those traits. Second… most people hate being helped, especially with money. That one surprised me even more. I couldn’t believe it at first. My first impulse when I started making a lot of money was to share it with others so they could also build their own assets and find financial freedom. But they didn’t want it! Some even got mad at me for trying. I never fully understood that. I still don’t. I had been helped before that, by others, and I always felt really happy about it, and I wanted to do the same for others when I was finally able to do it… so it was kind of sad. I did give a lot during that time, but wasn’t as fun as I had thought it would be. I guess it’s my turn to receive again, or at least to give others the chance to help and be sure their help will be deeply appreciated.
If you want to help someone make her dream life come true, someone who could be you, or your mother, your daughter, your friend, your sister, I’m here with a big THANK YOU.