Hello, I am writing this today because my Grandmother passed away on May 20, of this year. She was 84. Her and I were very close, growing up my mother and father divorced when I was 11 and my father was very abusive, she was the only one who stood up to him and protected me, that established our bond, and over the years we became very close even though I lived in the Northwest and she lived in southern California. My father moved me up to the Northwest when I was 15 and forbid me from contacting anyone in my family because he did not want to be found (mainly to avoid paying child support from my mother I presume since my other 3 siblings went off with her), He wouldn’t even allow me to return to high school because he didn’t want my school records to be traced, but he did make me go to work to help support his new family. So I got a job at a gas station pumping gas at a gas station in Portland, Oregon Working 50 hours a week. He ended up kicking me out of the house a year later, but I was so afraid of his threats, it took me three years to contact my Grandmother. Things ended up working out for me, a wonderful woman took me in, allowed me to rent a room from her, pushed me to go back to school, and I was able to join a union, where I made very good money. I subsequently had a family, bought a home, and provided(by working very hard) a good life for my family. Then tragedy struck, I caught a valve that was slipping out of the rigging while we were 160 feet in the air that weighed around 3 to 4 hundred pounds. I took a step with all that weight in my arms and unfortunately, destroyed L4, L5, and S1 in my lower back, which required me to have 2 back surgeries, and disabled me from my career. Well when I got hurt, because I couldn’t make the kind of money my ex wife was used too, she left me liteally laying in a hospital bed. Hence why I am disabled today and do not have much. And I lost literally everything.
My Grandmother was there through it all, she was tough on me when she had to be, and consoling as well. Her and I shared a very deep bond, intact she used to tell everyone that she would just look at my picture and say “Jason call me!” And within 15 minutes I would. Well that little trick of hers helped get her emergency services once, back in 2006, she had fallen in her kitchen, she was having a major stroke. I, at the time, was working a construction job in Washington state. When I was overcame with an urge to call my Grandmother even though cell phones were outlawed on the job. So in front of everyone, I opened my cell and called her. It took me a couple of minutes for me to realize that she was in grave danger because her speech was garbled, but once I did, i contacted the emergency services in L.A. county and was able to get her to the hospital. Unfortunately the stroke took it’s took on her and physically she couldn’t do somethings that she could before, but she was as sharp and feisty as ever!! I made it a point to come down at least twice a year to see her and bring my family down for thanksgiving. We were all we had. She is the reason I am the man I am today, she raised me to have integrity, character, to strive to be the best at whatever you do, and most of all to love God and your family. She was not much over 4′ 11″ but she commanded a presence that made you listen and take notice, I love her so much and she will be missed by many!
I have never asked for money from anyone before today, but I cannot do this now without help, I have already spent almost $5000 dollars, that only covered her coffin and funeral in L.A. and left a balance with the mortuary of around $3600. Then on top of it she is supposed to be buried in Arkansas. The house is in reverse mortgage, to the amount of $480k, and almost $100k in credit card debt, so there is nothing left in the estate. Please help me through this, I am only looking to try and recoup what I have spent and her burial in Arkansas, which amounts to around $15k . Thank you so much if you took the time to read this!!!