Hello, my name is Onajite Ekpere, I’ve gone by Jite all my life. I’m 29 and the youngest of five children. I would like to tell you a story. On July 14, 2018, my world was turned upside down, and it became the worst day of my life. It is the day that my family lost my father to Alzheimer’s. He was only 71 when he passed, and was first diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in his early 60s. My Dad was a Medical Physicist (dealt with cancer patients and worked with the Radiation Oncologist), before he was diagnosed and could no longer work in his field. He helped people for a living. He was passionate about doing everything that he could to fight cancer, doing his part. He was passionate about his wife and kids. Even though he was always at the hospital, he made time for us. Family was always important to him. He was passionate about being a good example to my two brothers and showing them what it means to truly be a Godly man and good husband. He was passionate about singing and worship. He could never carry a tune, but that never stopped him from praising and worshiping God to his best ability. He was passionate about life.
Then one day, his life slowly began to be taken from him, by Alzheimer’s. There are many stages of Alzheimer’s. It was a slow and gradual process of deterioration over the years. By the end, my father was a shell of himself. Watching someone you love deteriorate over a period of time, and know that there was nothing you could do about it, was probably one of the most painful things I experienced. When he passed, apart of me was glad. He was no longer in pain, no longer suffering. The rest of me though is heartbroken. I feel that I’ve lost a part of myself.
But, this fundraising isn’t about me. This is about my mother, and my heart for her. My parents were married 40 something years, and now my mother’s other half is gone. My mom’s a teacher and the school year has started, so it’s helped to keep her distracted, but my heart breaks for her. She went from having a Physicist and Teacher Salary, to just a Teacher’s. She’s been living with just her salary since my Dad was first diagnosed years ago, and she’s made it work, but we all know a Teacher’s salary is not much to live on. Then, a month ago, my father died, causing her to have to use a lot of her savings for all of the memorial/funeral home preparations etc.
I don’t know how to help my mother right now, except offer my support and love. What can you really say to someone who has experienced such loss/grief? What I do know though is that, if I can help relieve any financial stress, even if it’s just a little off of her, then it’s something. She’s grieving, the last thing she needs is financial stress. So, I come to why I’m asking for money. This fundraiser is for her, to help relieve some of her financial burden. I won’t profit from any of these funds. I don’t need to. I have an amazing job. I just want to do this as a gift to her. My parents always did everything that they could for all of us. I want to give back to her.
So please, if you’ve ever experienced loss of a loved one, or find my cause worthy, send a donation to: http://paypal.me/OnajiteEkpere
Thank you all so much.