Hello, my name is Ben. I’m not really sure how to just ask the internet community for money, and I honestly can’t think of a reason I can give you to prove why I deserve it more than anyone else on here. Realistically, I’m sure most people here are either equally, or more deserving of the kindness of a stranger. The only reason I’m giving this a try, is for my amazing 4 year old daughter, who’s innocent, and deserves to not be affected by money issues, and deserves to just be a kid, instead of noticing my wife and I stressing about money, and quietly going to her room, and grabbing her little trolls piggy bank, and taking every last coin, that she’s been so proud of herself for collecting and saving, and comes back into the room. She holds up her hands, and they’re overflowing with $5.74 that she has saved and not touched for 2.5 years. She plopped the big ole pile on our bed massive smile on her face like she just passed the law to get rid of naptimes or something. She said: Look,Dad! Look it! I guess you didn’t know how really much I saved together for all the time. It’s okay if you and mommy didn’t save this many monies because I did, and you guys can have all of this so we can go to our new apartment! That’s gotta be enough! I’m such a good saver!”
As hilarious as this was to listen to, it was also the sweetest act out kindness from a 4 year old who saw someones need for help, and realized her ability to help them. It was also the most heart breaking reminder to me that even though she doesn’t completely get it, or show it, she has been right there with us through the hardest time in my life. She is experiencing the same stress at 4 years old, and still keeps this big dumb smile on all day, and I couldn’t be more happy to call this compassionate, giving girl my daughter. And I want to make sure it only gets better for her from here.
Almost two years ago, my girlfriend(at the time. She is now my wife) and I, both lost our jobs due to Corona. In all honesty, we were totally fine with it, considering the ridiculous amount of money we were both receiving every week from unemployment. It was way more than either of us made from working. So admittedly, we took advantage of it, and got used to spending our days having fun with our daughter, and doing what we wanted to do all the time. We even saved enough of the money up, to go to Las Vegas and got married. Not long after that, we had to move out of the basement we were renting because the house was being foreclose on, and we were never told. At the same time, I had some family medical issues come up, and helped financially when I could, as well as paying for hotels every single night. And soon after that started, I got cut off unemployment. And not too long after that, my wife was also cut off. We spent maybe two weeks running ourselves down to nothing every day trying to get money for a hotel each night. It was the most stressful thing I’ve ever had to experience. It wasn’t a life style we could maintain, and decided to look into homeless shelters, and found a family one that we luckily got a spot in. While the shelter did a lot for us, and I’m eternally grateful for the 3 months we were there instead of outside with our daughter, it was so mentally draining on our whole family. We were all so defeated, and spent each day in a cold, damp, cement from floor to ceiling room. We were not allowed any outside food to be brought in, and were served 3 “meals every day.. they were tiny, and unidentifiable most the time. We were assigned to a housing company, who eventually got us out of there, and into our very own apartment. It’s been amazing having a roof over our head, and not worrying that we wouldn’t have one the next night. Our landlord unfortunately ended up being a greased, thieving slumlord. Who charges insane fees to move in, and then eventually evicts you, and steals the massive over charged deposit. We were her latest victims. We have until the end of November to be out. Luckily, our housing agency found us a place with an opening and we were accepted, and told that our first months rent, and security deposit were both being paid for us! We were all covered. And then, abruptly get told that they will not be able to cover any of it anymore. I’ve actually got a great job that starts in a week, but obviously that won’t be soon enough to cover these surprise costs. So now, we’re back to hearing that we are going to end up back in the situation that was such a challenge for all of us to get through, instead of the new apartment building that we thought was a done deal. All that’s standing in the way of us being able to start moving in, is not having the money to move in. The deposit is $600, and we have to pay a double deposit because of my wifes prior eviction from her first place at 18. I am both devastated, and terrified that I have no apparent way of getting us into the home we thought was already ours. There’s nothing in this world I wouldn’t do to not have to explain to my daughter why we actually aren’t moving into a better apartment, that would allow us to get a dog that she’s wanted since she was born. But instead, we’re moving back into the place with the mean scary people and that makes everyone sad. I wish so badly I would have been proactive about finding work to plan ahead and be able to handle situations like this. It could have been easily prevented by me. It breaks my heart to have to try to explain why we’re not going to the amazing new place anymore. And then tell her where we will most likely go instead. And that’s only if the shelter has room for us.
The fact that I could have gotten a job sooner, and been prepared for this situation, but instead didn’t, makes it really hard for me to ask for money, or feel like I have any right, or place to do so. But, my daughter couldn’t have done anything more helpful than she already had been doing by being so positive, supportive, and understanding through all of this. She has no choice in this. With the double $600 deposit, and first and last months rent, which equals in total: $3,820.00 needed to be paid before moving in, I see no chance of getting it all taken care of. So, this is me, as a Dad who’s disappointed in himself for letting this situation completely destroy our future, asking anyone who is willing to at least give something, towards a chance of seeing the smile light up even more on Sammies face when she sees her new room. I’m not asking, nor expecting anyone to cover the whole $3,820. I’m just asking for a little hope to be sent our direction. I appreciate you just for reading through all of that.
My PayPal, (which was named a long time ago, when I possessed a lot less maturity, so I apologize for the name) is: