short Version: my father’s malicious power of attorney is trying to sell my home out from under me so he can profit off the sale and because he has stated he wants to see me suffer and make sure I have nothing left in this world. I am requesting funds to stop him from taking the last bit of my father’s estate away from me so that I can remain close to my father for the time he has left despite the power of attorneys efforts to the contrary. PayPal.me/RaelaReames
Long Version (For those who want the details): My father and I have always been very close. I’ve always said my father would take the stars from the heavens and give them to me if I needed it. But not if I wanted it. My father helped me get my first job when I was 12 waiting tables at a local restaurant. He was always willing to help anyone out but he also instilled in me the value of Independence and carrying your own weight. Although my father has helped me out throughout the years, I have avoided asking for his help whenever I could. Just like he would.
So 3 years ago when he asked me to move back home to take care of him, I knew he really needed help. I’ve moved back into my old home that I had lived in when I was in college. My father owns the property. When I had left to continue my education, I had invested over $10,000 into the home so that when I was gone my father could rent it out and receive income from it. At the time he told me that he would put my name on the title because of this. I never pushed him to do the paperwork to do so I just simply assumed I would inherit the property someday as I am an only child and my father had always said I would inherit everything he had.
When I came home it wasn’t bad health that was the problem. My father was beginning to develop dementia. He had a friend named Tom who also had developed a dementia and had been taken to a nursing home by his family. He died a few weeks later. My father and I agreed he had given up hope in the home and it killed him. My father made me promise to never let that happen to him and I was more than happy to make that promise.
Flash Forward a few years later, and my father’s dementia is really starting to be a problem. I had assumed he’d filled out the proper paperwork for his wishes as to power of attorney and medical choices and whatnot. I was completely wrong. He had done none of them. So when he wound up in the hospital and it was obvious he needed someone to look over his affairs, I set about getting the papers in order. A friend of his offered to do them for us and I saw no reason why we shouldn’t let him. My father asked him to be power of attorney so that I wouldn’t have to make any hard decisions. I disagreed with this choice but I thought how bad it could be?? Oh I was so naive.
I have since learned that not only did he have greedy intent towards my father’s estate. He also apparently hates me for some reason that he refuses to state out loud. Although some people might not think so, his actions have clearly stated he has malicious intent towards me. You know the type of people who cannot stand anyone else who challenges their leadership or their intelligence? The power attorney is that kind of guy. It has become quite obvious he has planned this takeover for quite some time and is jealous that my father thought so highly of me. Weird right?? I don’t get it either. My brain doesn’t work like that so I can’t even begin to wrap my head around his behavior. But his actions speak louder and words and maliciousness and greed are all that I see from him. He won’t even let my father buy Christmas presents for my children. To me that’s a special kind of selfish narcissistic demon I am facing.
As soon as his friend became power of attorney, his first action was to cancel all of my father’s life insurance policies so that I would inherit nothing from them. As well as to cancel the car insurance and home insurance I had paid for out of pocket myself with policies that covered my fathers home and vehicles as well as my own. He didn’t even tell me he did so and left me driving without insurance for over a month before I found out. Then he stuck my father in a nursing home against his will. I went to the nursing home and retrieved my father and brought him home. My father told his friend that he did not want to be there and he wanted to stay home and I thought that would be that. His friend had other plans and quickly returned him to the nursing home and told the staff there that I was not allowed to take him off property. Two weeks later I showed up at my father’s house to feed his cats and found the place had been robbed. I called the police who investigated and found the house has not been robbed but that his friend had begun removing property to take it and sell at auction to pay for the nursing home. The nursing home my father did not need to be in and did not want to be in.
My father and I attempted to revoke his power of attorney placement and we wound up in court as the friend filed for guardianship. Despite the revocation, the man was granted guardianship and the right to make all decisions concerning my father’s estate and my father himself.
Over the course of the next 6 months the man sold off everything my father owned. He did not allow me to take anything for sentimental value and called the police on me for trying to stop him. The police said it was a civil matter. It was also a civil matter when the man stole my property from my father’s home and also sold it at auction. In total he has stolen over $6,000 worth of property from me and auctioned off over a quarter million dollars worth of property of my father’s. He has stolen over a hundred firearms from my father, and God only knows what else he has taken. The power of attorney hauled my father’s belongings to an auction house located hours away and owned by a friend of his so that a select group of his choosing would be the only ones bidding to buy my father’s estate. He has cost my father over $100,000 in items that were either stolen or sold for below their value. Several other incidents occurred that show exactly how much hatred and animosity this power of attorney has towards me and my father. These are just a few examples:
1)Everything he couldn’t immediately sell at my father’s home he threw in the trash to make sure that even if I found a way to get my father out of the nursing home he would have no home to go back to. My father’s washer and dryer,stove and refrigerator as well as his possessions and furniture were thrown in a dumpster and hauled off before I even knew what was happening.
2) I found all of my father’s photo albums in the trash can in the house. They had been gone through and all of the photos of me and my father had been removed and set on fire.
3) He had even gone so far as to rip the heads off of my childhood dolls that were still in my room at my father’s home.
4) several of my fathers pet cats I had taken in when he was taken to the home have suddenly gone missing or returned home poisoned and one even came back with rope burn on her neck. All in the past 6 months
5) I had moved a mobile home into my father’s yard to use as an office while I was living there to care for my father. I was given 2 weeks to have it removed from the property and on the day that I attempted to move it, when the moving company started to drive down the road, 2 tires popped off and the home crashed in the roadway. The police officer who responded to the incident showed me that the lug nuts had been loosened so that the tires came off on purpose. Although it was more than obvious who was responsible, they did not feel that I had evidence enough for them to even bother investigating. I had spent a few thousand on the mobile home and after owning it only a few months I had to pay $4,000 to have someone tear it down and remove the rubble away to the dump.
As you can see this is more akin to bullying and harassment at the highest level and far more negative consequences then should happen for simply removing my father from a nursing home and disagreeing with the power of attorney. This is the level of evil I am dealing with and it is extremely determined to punish me and cause me to suffer for its own Joy. Some days I wake up and think this all has to be a nightmare. But unfortunately it’s my everyday life and it has taken a huge toll on my health and my mental well-being.
Despite the fact that my father wanted me to keep my home, this man has now filed eviction paperwork on me to have me forcibly removed from the home that I have invested over $20,000 in. The courts continue to let him do as he pleases and when I went to the hearing a few weeks ago, they gave me 30 days to come up with $8,000 to keep my home. $8,000 isn’t much. If you would ask me for it and the 3 years previous to this I could have easily paid that amount. But after not working very much for 3 years and caring for my dad instead, as well as then spending the last 6 months fighting this man in court over my dad’s care and estate, I am completely flat broke. I know from speaking to my uncle of that the power of attorney plans on asking the court to evict me within 10 days knowing full well that I do not have the capacity to remove my property from the home in that time frame. He wants to take my belongings and auction them off himself as a final kick in the ribs and the completion of his mission too take everything from me.
He also wants to evict me and sell it so that way he can get paid from the estate for his work. The power of attorney’s auctioneer friend of course will get paid for the auction and his friend who is his lawyer can get paid for his assistance taking my home from me. There is a lot of money to be gained. Just as they have gained financially from the sale of my father’s home and the sale of all of my father’s property.
The larger ticket items I once owned that I could have sold to help pay the cost of my home were stolen from my father’s property by his so-called friend, and the police have told me I have to sue him to try to recoup the loss. That takes longer than the 30 days and with the way things have gone in court so far is highly unlikely I would win. I do run an online sales business and I have been forced to move every bit of inventory and everything else into the small home I live in where it was once at my father’s so that I could work and care for him at the same time. I would auction it all off to pay for the home but all of the local auction houses are booked out for the next 3 months so that is not an option either. I attempted to take out a loan. But credit cards that that my soon to be ex-husband ran up when I was busy and distracted with the power of attorney problem, have destroyed my credit and I am unable to get any type of loan for any amount.
I have spent the past few weeks racking my brain and desperately trying to come up with a plan to save my home. Not just because it was my father’s but because if I am forced to move I have nowhere to go but somewhere that is another hour away from my father. I can’t afford to visit him very often as it is. Let alone if I had to move even further from him. This man has cost me my entire inheritance just like he told me he would when I confronted him about what he was doing in January. He did not like his decisions being questioned and I believe he is doing all of this to me to punish me for it. Out of sheer spite he has done everything in his power to make me miserable and broke so that when he did come for my house I would be forced to give it to him and allow it to be sold.
Everyone who knows my father feels I’m being ripped off and that the whole situation is long past ridiculous.All the stress from the situation has broken my father down and his dementia is far worse than even the doctors thought it would be at this point. His downward decline has been extremely rapid and breaks my heart beyond words. I do not want to be forced to be further away from my father. I have no money to move anywhere and it would be so much work to do so that I don’t even want to contemplate it or else I’m afraid I’ll have a panic attack. Something that has been happening more and more frequently lately.
Unfortunately, No one I know has the capacity to help me. The law has washed their hands of the entire situation.I feel completely and utterly alone and bereft. It makes me sick that this man has been allowed by the courts to do my dad and me so dirty. It’s all legal. Even if it’s completely & utterly wrong.
I do currently work in a local retail store but at this point the business is not doing well and if I try to take days off they may well shut the business down for good and I will lose my job.
I have tried so very hard to fight for what my father wanted but I have been defeated and every battle up until this point. If this man wins and takes my home from me that will be it. I will have lost everything my father spent his entire life building and planned to leave to me. Every bit of it stolen from my father and from myself by a man who called himself my father’s friend. It is too horrible to even imagine what that funnel loss will do to my father’s state of health as well as my mental health. I just know it will be bad. Very very bad.
I have never been one to ask for help unless I truly needed it and unfortunately I have been unable to secure the funds myself to keep my home. I was barely making ends meet before this happened and I have explored every option I can think of but unfortunately none of them will come up with the money I need soon enough to save my house. And that has led me to this website, and to you. Please don’t let this selfish man take everything from my father and then myself. Please help restore my faith in humanity and help me keep my home. Thank you in advance for hearing my story and for any help you choose to provide. You have no idea how much it means to me to not feel all by myself in this.
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