It could always be worse, right?
Where to start??
I guess an introduction would be nice. Hey y’all my name is Brandy, I’m a 47yr old woman from Augusta Ga. I am newly divorced and learning some hard life lessons, unfortunately.
I have, for the most part been a very happy, grateful, generous and caring gal. I’ve had set backs in life but Hey, who hasn’t? I always made the best of it, worked hard and had enough to get by and be somewhat comfortable. I have never been a complainer or excuse maker. My father raised me to be a prideful independent woman. I decided to travel as a young woman after loosing my father at the age of 19. I didn’t want to be one to stay stuck in my hometown stuck with a closed mind. I knew I wanted to be a well rounded open minded worldly versed woman. Plus I wanted to make my dad proud of his only girl and youngest of 4 children. I feel like I definitely accomplished that. I didn’t think I’d ever end up back in Georgia as a grown woman. My mother, who I was not close with as a child reached out to me at 29, I was living in Dallas, had a great job and a great life. I had coincidentally, at 22 gone into the same line of work that she had. Medical Billing. Anywho, she had opened her own company here, was successful but had just had a heart attack scare. She said it made her realize how important I was to get and would I consider moving home to work for her with promises of one day taking over the business. After much thought and consideration I decided to do just that. Everything was good for oh.. around 15 years. We reconnected, bonded and finally had a good relationship. Until in August of 2021 when covid took her life and forever changed mine. My stepfather, to whom I’ve never really “clicked” with decided to completely shut me out the minute she was gone. He refused to go to probate court to complete the transfer of the company to me, even though he knew that’s what we had started doing and that’s what she wanted. He stated he didn’t want any of her debt to be deducted from the life insurance money he had received. I was never privy to the amount. Among other horrible decisions he made that left me completely out. Some things are too painful to talk about just yet. Well, needless to say, I was lost! At 46 with everything planned to having Nothing! No more plan no more mother or father and no one to confide or trust. I had left my husband the previous year in 2020. I left everything but my car and clothes, knowing it was just stuff and I would build everything back. So, to keep from going on and on and singing my sad story, I made a few bad decisions on the people I let in my life and ended up being held hostage for hours, beat up and somewhat tortured by a man that took advantage of my depleted mental state. This was such a hard thing for me to accept. The strong woman my dad raised was now a victim. It’s been a hard pill to swallow even saying that word. So now I find myself questioning everything, not wanting to leave the house much and definitely not wanting to meet or be around anyone.
I have attempted to start my own post construction clean up business. It’s been ok, not consistent or reliable but I have food to eat and a roof over my head. Well everything seems to be slowly falling apart. My only car has broke down, no work coming in which how would I get there anyway, bills due and I literally have no one to lean on anymore or no one to ask help from if I could muster the courage to ask. I reached out to my older brother but was ignored. People hate to be bothered with others problems. Plus I was Brandy, who never asked anyone for anything and did for myself LoL “she’ll figure it out” but I haven’t, I don’t know what to do! I have no credit, no work no car and fastly loosing hope. This forum was discovered by accident. I thought, why not! What’s the worst that could happen? So here I am. Knowing it could be worse but worried it just might get that way! I just need someone willing to take a chance on me so that I thrive and provide a decent life for myself.