Hello! I feel absolutely terrible having to ask anyone for money but I’m at a point where sadly even eating every other day I’m simply not going to be able to make my food supplies last. If… if anyone out there reads this, and you just have 5 bucks, I… I swear that would mean the entire world to me right now.
So how did I end up like this? About a month ago I lost my job. My transphobic boss had been trying to make my life a nightmare ever since I came out as a trans woman. He told everyone to stop calling me she/her or my name, went out of his way to find excuses for why my work was sub par, ect. But honestly I was just so happy with myself, and HRT, and feeling like I’d finally been able to be the person that I wanted to be, that it just… didn’t bother me that much. It hurt but I still enjoyed the job pretty well. Eventually I guess he decided he wasn’t going to be able to get me to leave voluntarily so he just had me fired on the spot. No prior warnings. No write ups for any kind of poor performance or bad behavior. No chance for me to improve. He didn’t even sit down with me and do his usual performance reviews like he was supposed to. He just told me that I “wasn’t getting it” and “wasn’t going to get it” and that was that. I was the only woman doing my job for almost ten years, and he hired me for incompetence despite being one of the most experienced members of my position and routinely being told I was by far the best at the job from my peers.
I did get a lawyer over it. And I think, from what I understand, I have a great case. I’ve got messages talking about my supervisor systemically harassing me and such from multiple sources. But…. it’s going to take years. I’ll be lucky if I even get to officially file suit before 2023, if I am understanding correctly.
But to make matters worse, the very next day me and the ex spouse got into a big fight. They were upset that I was going to be without a job. And they got physically violent…. again. I have a history of abuse. My mother was an abusive alcoholic when I was younger. In fact I don’t know if I’ve ever lived with someone that hasn’t at least given me a black eye once or twice. But…. I really thought the ex was going to get better. That time I said enough was enough though, and I decided to move out.
I spent a couple weeks living in a car before I was able to get a place to let me rent from them. I had some savings and was able to sell off things like my magic card collection to get my first month of rent together (and a deposit and everything else), so I’m good there for a few weeks at least. The problem is food. I expect I’ll be able to get a job fairly quickly, I might not be the strongest in the world but I’ve done factory work for 10 years at this point so I’m used to manual labor. But even if I got a job tomorrow somehow, it’d still be a week or two before I could expect to see my first paycheck. And I have to eat until then. I have been drawing out food by only eating every other day but…. I’m at the point where I think this upcoming Wednesday will be the last day I can eat. And… if it takes more time to even find a job… I just…. Well… I don’t know what I’ll do. I’ll just have to hope someone, somewhere, can lend me a hand…. Please.
TL;DR: Came out as trans, boss tried to run me off, eventually fired me. Ex gave me a couple new bruises over it so I left. Now I’ve managed to find shelter but I really need food to make it until I can get a new job and paycheck.