Main information first – I am the financial head of household for my mom and siblings. I’m 40 and my mom and sisters live with me. In the recent months, we have been struggling, and I have been the one to bail us out of situations. While trying to recover from those financial situations,I lost my job and have been struggling to find another one.
I’ve been the financial head of the household in my family for a long time now and pay the large essential household expenses. My mom has fibromyalgia, lupus, and arthritis. For years, after my dad passed away, she physically suffered while trying to be the financial head of the household . Many times she would physically overexert herself, trying to work extra hours to make ends meet. And most of the time that resulted in her losing her job at some point because she could barely move or get out of bed. She is now retired and has a limited income. My sister has been on long-term disability for a couple of years now with unfortunate health issues. This means she too has limited income. My other sister just recently had a baby and financially has very little income to spare.
I have been recovering from going through a few years of depression but still have extreme anxiety. For the last two years I have struggled to push through feeling burned out at a job that I’ve been at for the last ten years. Great people to work with but the company really put me in some tough spots that I never fully recovered from. Hence the built up anxiety and burn out.
In the first half of this year, my car was repossessed (I got it back), and our house was scheduled for a foreclosure sale (I was able to get the balance paid off).
I worked hard to get my car back, and I worked hard to get the house paid up. I worked hard to begin healing from the mental state that I had been in for the last couple of years and felt that I was finally pulling myself out of the hole that I had unfortunately fallen into. Unfortunately, I lost my job. My extreme anxiety affected my mood, my personal life and my professional life. I felt like I was in a sinking hole, where I kept trying to pull myself out by working overtime to catch up and keep up. In hindsight, I think it was unrealistic to believe that I could do the work that was given to me and catch up.
I’m unemployed, with little savings because of the previously mentioned financial situations, and feeling the after affects of having been burned out for the last few years. I am currently looking for employment, but need help making sure my essential bills are paid while I look so that I don’t get into a worse financial situation or another hole that I can’t pull myself out of. My main bills (house, utilities, car), add up to a couple $1,000 a month and any little bit you can spare will really help.