I am a 46 year old single female in Arkansas with 2 grown children and 2 beautiful granddaughters. This year has been a really rough year for me and I officially hit rock bottom recently and am in the process of digging myself out of a hole and building back a life.
Backstory, in 2007 I was married and my husband and I lived with our 2 children in a small community next door to my husband’s grandfather. We discovered that both of my children were being molested by the grandfather next door and I had a nervous breakdown. We sold everything we owned and moved in with my parents, we reported the abuse and sought counseling for the entire family. In the end, the case was never prosecuted. My daughter’s mental state, and mine suffered tremendously due to the fact that this monster was allowed to continue living a normal life and ours had been turned upside down. I ended up moving two hours away from home to a town where we knew noone. Soon after I was divorced, raising my children alone and struggled for the next few years.
Life was getting back to normal when my daughter met a man who turned her on to drugs. He would put her through years of abuse and become the father of her two children. I had pulled my life back together, worked two jobs to support my kids and myself, and eventually landed a job as a deputy sheriff in the county we were living in. Despite the constant struggle with my daughter’s addiction, and the fact that I was forced to take on custody of my granddaughter due to this, I continued to live a productive and semi happy life. I got my son through college and grad school, which he completed in 3 short years because he knew that it was a struggle, even with him working, for us to make it.
After my son graduated and moved away, my daughter’s life “seemed” to be better and she had her daughter back and I decided to simplify my life. I sold my home and with the eight thousand dollars I received after all was said and done I bought a camper. I sold everything that I had except for my camper and my truck and focused on working in my law enforcement career for 3 more years. I was doing well, everything I had was paid for with no mortgage and no car payment. The plan was to live simple, save all the money I could, and move back to my hometown to care for my elderly parents. My mother has been fighting metastatic triple negative breast cancer for 4 years and my father is diagnosed with non alcoholic cirrhosis of the liver.
In June I received a phone call at work one morning and was informed that my 12 year old niece had made allegations that my father touched her inappropriately. This was a trigger so to speak. I began having nightmares and flashbacks of the trauma I experienced when my own daughter was abused. My mental state deteriorated, I quit my job, moved my camper back to my hometown and was on a downhill slide so to speak. My truck that I pulled my camper with began having issues and the man who offered to fix it for me ended up stealing it from me. The police could not get it back for me because he said I owed him 2 thousand dollars for repairs when he had put parts on it that I bought.I paid 2200 dollars for the truck when I bought it and could not afford to pay him that much to get it back. Then my daughter showed up at my camper with my 2 grandchildren, stating that she had left her abusive husband and had nowhere to go. They moved into the camper with me. I cashed out an insurance policy for money to buy a 4,000.00 car so that I could work for door dash to try to get by until I found a job. My parents bought a house for my daughter and her kids to live in and I was able to move my camper into the yard because I don’t make enough money with door dash to pay 400 a month rent plus my phone bill and buy groceries. The camper is hooked up to the water, sewer and electric at my daughter’s house, but it is “rigged” at the moment because I do not have the money to install the proper pole and utility hookups that are needed to provide a safe place to stay. My daughter’s puppy has torn up my sewer line and water hose to the camper and I have nailed some old fencing up to keep the dog away from my camper for now while I try to figure out how to fix what she broke. I have been applying for work here for the last 2 months and finally got an interview and was offered a job. My start date in January 29, 2022. I am currently trying to door dash and survive until I start my new job. I recently found a small piece of land with a small 26 by 20 house on it. The house is barely livable but needs alot of work. The asking price is 7500.00 and then I would have to cover closing costs. If I can get this house I would be able to pay someone to move my camper next to it. This would give me the security in knowing that the dog is not going to tear my camper up any more than she already has. I can install the proper hookups for my camper and I can continue to door dash and find odd jobs to get me by until I start my new job at which point I could begin working on the house and get it livable. I just need a fresh start. I need to get out of my daughter’s yard and to a place where I have privacy. A place where I can focus on getting my life back and moving forward where I can be on my own. Any help that you can provide would be greatly appreciated. I still do not have any payments on anything, I don’t have a truck to move my camper. I just need to get through until January 29 when I start my new job and with the stress and anxiety I am experiencing in dealing with living on someone else’s property where I have no control over what happens to the things I have worked hard in my life to obtain. If I was on my own land, alone with all of these other problems gone, I could focus and get back to the normal life I used to live. Thank you for taking the time to hear my story and God Bless.
My paypal me link is https://paypal.me/lisalthomas?country.x=US&locale.x=en_US
My goal is to raise $10,000 to purchase the house and land, cover closing costs and pay to have my camper moved to the land.