Hi there, my name is Jessy I am sincerely looking for some help financially following a horrific tragedy that has destroyed my life before its even started.
Last year my father was at work late an evening hooking up a semi trailer to his truck, he was laying underneath the truck hooking up connections. A friend of his walked by the say hello to him, he responded a simple hey, 15 – 20 minuets later he walked by his truck again only to notice he was still laying down in the same spot. He called out to him and didn’t get any responses, upon moving in closer to check on him he realized he was getting zero responses. when he got to my father he was laying on the ground still – no movements, he yelled and shook him a little and had no reactions – Emergency services was called and they worked on him for well over one hour. There was no result. he was gone. Our dog Koda was in the truck barking, and emergency personnel ended up taking the dog to a pound in Vancouver.
The night of my mother was at home, she wasn’t concerned because it was very typical that my father would return home 11pm or later sometimes up to 3am as he was a trucker. There was a knock at the door and she answered, the police came to the door and said “Ma’am we are afraid to inform you but there was a accident and your husband has passed away” she was in un absolute shock. in denial she called them liars, over and over. All they would respond with was Ma’am we don’t lie. they offered apologies and a card for mental health services. I don’t know to this day how she felt truly having gone through this. sadly I was away from home and I had no idea this had happened. I got a text from her at 4am “CALL ME” and with tired eyes I thought in my head that perhaps something was wrong with my grandmother who has been battling lung cancer. that was the fear that came to my mind.
I called mom back only to be greeted in silence, all I could hear was her crying. She finally muttered to me dad is gone, and I fell to the floor sitting there blankly staring. I had no way to process what I heard, my chest was on fire – I immediately started screaming – thankfully my partner was there to hold me but honestly it felt as if my soul caught on fire and I was so numb I didn’t feel alive.
I don’t remember the next few days, I still remain in a dark sadness within my heart. my father was the strongest and most loving human I have ever known, he had a heart of gold and was in complete health. His death was a complete shock. I have never gone through a pain like this.
In time I’ve worked through some of the grief, but the sad story unfortunately hasn’t even begun.
A few weeks after my father passed, we got a call from a car lot. it turned out that the truck he had purchased with his future goal to retire with my mom in their rv and drive to Arizona was not under any insurance. The truck was a trade in for a new Dodge turbo diesel 3500 – the truck was bought to haul the rv and work on their retirement goal after selling their condo to take life a little easier. the debt owing was $96,000.00 .. the car lot demanded my mother to make payments, but she didn’t make nearly enough to cover the bi weekly payment. it turns out the car lot framed us and claimed my mother worked for the police department making an income of 110,000 annually… the papers had fake phone numbers, and the bank approved these loans under my mothers name unknown to her. the papers were an absolute lie but the bank approved these loans and in the end after getting a lawyer everything was against us. the truck had no insurance and we owed the money plain and simple. we ended up needing to take a line of credit from the home for 96k in order to cover the debts. we hoped we could sell the truck to make back some of the debt but it sat for months, we had to sell the rv and all my fathers tools and belongings that we could. We are still left with $26,000 in debt. we have no hope to escape this. my mother and I both work full time thankfully but we still don’t have the means to make ends meet. I am at a loss to help my mother financially we both make menial amounts. we can’t process the death, we don’t feel like we can move on. there has been an endless borage of issues after dad passed. I can’t expect help from anyone and I have been working hard to try help all I can but I simply cannot help enough. I don’t know what else to do or where to turn.
Ive set up a PayPal link if anyone is willing to help us, we don’t have family to help and we have sold and done all we can to pay this debt down. anything is appreciated and mom and I would be grateful for any help with this debt load.