Hi! My name is Andrea and I’m 16 years old girl from Estonia. I have 2 brothers and mom. I love animals and I like to help others…now I need to ask a favor from you. I’ll tell you my story… Everything started in 2010. My mom was divorced with my biological dad and she was happy. I won’t tell the reasons why my real dad and my mom divorced because he’s not involved in this. So.. my mom found a new man 9 months later. They started writing to each other and then one thing led to another. Then my mom introduced him to me and my brother (born in 2008). We didn’t actually know what to think about him at first, but he looked very kind, gentle and funny. They dated around 2 years and in November 2012 my second brother was born. In July 2013, they married. Everything seems to be amazing, was my first thought. When a year passed, he changed. He became a little violent on me and my brother (not with his own child). I’m an equestrian and I had a whip in my room ( I just got that from my post) and then he took that and he hit me with that, but not very hard. I ran straight away to my grandmother with who we were living and she protected me. My mom wasn’t home at that time. Then he shouted every day with me and my brother again, because everything we said or did was wrong for him. And we weren’t his real kids as he liked to say. Then he became violent with my mom and they were arguing at least 4x times a week. In April, 2018 we were at the party. There was our family friends ( my mom’s side) only and us (me, my mom and my stepdad). There was alcohol, my mother was sober but stepdad drunk. So he saw how my mom was talking with a guy (17 years old, now 20). We helped him upstairs to his room because he wasn’t feeling very well. He came upstairs too and made drama that my mom was flirting with him. Gosh, I was there and we were just talking about horses no idea where he took the flirting thought. So went back home. My mom wanted to go to her room to sleep but he blocked the way and told her that she was cheating. My mom of course denied everything and then he just pushed her next to the mirror and hit her with his head. Her nose was bleeding and then I told him to stop and then he took her to the living room and put her down and started chocking her. I was trying to get him away from her but thank god that my grandmother was with us. She pushed him away and then he ran away. We called the police immediately. They took my mom with them and they made pictures of her nose. Then she came back at 3AM or something. Next day he came back. He already got a call from police and he talked with my mom about that. They said sorry to each other and everything was fine again! Then in June we moved out. We changed our school and went living 70km away from Estonian’s capital city. In school I was bullied because of my weight what I gained when I was 5 (my dad left us then). Our every day life wasn’t as happy as I liked to. Every day he just found another thing to shout about and he used more violence on my mom. Then at the beginning of February he lost his job (again). And he was just sitting home all the year. We were at school and he was just sitting, eating, playing games on his phone and watching TV. My mom was working in military as a chef and she had to work around 12h a day, 5 times a week. It was so tiring for her. And when she came back at home she had to do all the cleaning and all that stuff. Because he was lazy and not helping. My brothers and I were helping her as much as we could. In November she lost her job too, because of her back problems and Health Insurance knows about this and they recommended. She had to took some loans because there was many unexpected expenses. 2020 began for us shocked. My mom put divorce papers in court or something in March. Then he made our living to hell. We were still living under the same roof. We (me, my mom and my brother) had to live only upstairs in our room and he put a door between the stairs and corridor. He didn’t let us eat properly. He didn’t let us use the kitchen and corridor. We ate only fast food for a whole month and ( and it’s not cheap!!) noodles and so on. Then I lost my appetite and I had to go and have a visit to my doctor. He told me that I have some problems with my stomach ( he gave us me a medicine too and told that if it’s not going any better then I need to go and visit another doctor who’s going to do different tests with me). And that’s how we lived for a whole month. And it was COVID19 time too, so it was extra important to be careful. He didn’t let us use the wash machine so we couldn’t wash our clothes. He told us that we can use bathroom only 15 minutes together. In April we went to our grandmother. She gave us some proper food and we washed our clothes. Next day we went back. He kicked us out. (They were divorced, but the owner of the house let us to live there because it was hard for us to find a place to live. And my youngest brother was with him because he didn’t let us to be with him at all). He kicked us out and then we had to go back to our grandmother. And now we are still living here with her. Now he has 3 criminal cases going on and we don’t know how will it end. My mom needs to pay a loan (4000€) what she took last year. And we don’t have that much of a money. We have had many expenses this year too and we nearly make it every month. The court is going to take her car away because she hasn’t had the chance to pay. (Our dog died, all the court payments, lawyer and so on). We are still in the same school where we were when we moved and we have to drive there Monday-Friday.