I am not sure where to even begin or what to even say that will help or if I will say to much…
I got covid Thanksgiving of 2021. I was out of work for 16 days. I was working at Banter at the time as a sales associate and my Husband (just dating and awaiting our wedding at the time) worked at another Banter as a Manager. So we were playing catch up until maybe February.
The company started trimming down hours sometime around then as well, since the holiday craze was dying down. So I started job searching. I was able to get a job before they started closing down stores and my husband was also job searching because the company was not seeming to be doing good and he felt as though his store was next. (It was…2 weeks before our wedding)
When we moved into this place it was My husband, roommate and myself, that was the beginning of 2021. At the time him and I were still dating. During the downsizing of the company and how our roommate ties into everything, is that we sat down to discuss that things might be tight and at the time our wedding was around the corner, and our roommate was planning on moving out with her boyfriend at the end of this year (2022) or sometime at the beginning of 2023. So we were set and made sure our ducks were in a row before the end of this year. He was planning on taking on unpaid training for 4-6weeks to get His Casino Licenses. I agreed to work over time and She agreed that was all ok and that we had nothing to worry about with rent or shared bills.
Queue the big hit…well she moved at right after we got married on July 12th the casino thing had 2 weeks left but we had our honeymoon (our wedding and honeymoon had already been budgeted and paid for, it was a small simple wedding in a cave and we invited 6 people) our honeymoon was just a staycation for 5 days at home. We are home bodies. So at the beginning of this month she moved out, she was secretly packing and planning on moving even before we sat down with her. We wouldn’t have taken our honeymoon or even tried for unpaid training if we knew this was gonna happen.
The Casino job would have already happened by now and during that time my husband was doing delivery jobs to still bring in cash after he was done training during the day.
Before our wedding he had to fill out loads of paper work and do background checks and all that fun stuff.
He got it all done but they forgot to tell him he needed fingerprinting done as well. So that delayed him getting his Casino license on time. He finished out all his hours and is waiting for the Gaming Commission Control Board to sign his papers…well the guy that is suppose to sign them is on vacation! So we called again and asked if they could transfer it to someone else to sign, we contacted 3 different people and finally got through, so hopefully by Monday august 29th he will be fully hired on…it is just a waiting game for some guy to get back from his vacation…
It has been a mess and all through this we had to ask his grandma and dad for help. I have no family to help me, I was in foster care as a child and so all I have are 3 close friends who are handling their own lives. (I did ask for help from my bestie and she helped during the time I had covid, but I don’t wanna ask her again because she is trying to make ends meet for her self while she studies to become a teachers assistant and eventually teacher)
My husbands grandma turns 83 on the 26th and now we gotta ask her for money again the week of her birthday.
My husband is stressed and feels like he made a mistake taking this chance. We are playing crazy catch up right now. I just got paid today and even got some of my sign on bonus. Enough to pay rent for Sept. but all I have is $92 in my bank he has $125 from his close friend. But that is gas and food to get to and from work, that will last maybe a week, but we still have August bills to pay for.
For the month of august we need to pay both our car notes ($800ish combined) electric which is just $40 for now since our roommate had to switch it outta her name, our cell phones $250, car insurance which is $300 or so. I was able to cover our renters insurance, gas for our cars this week, buying school supplies for my kids 15,9,7 and one small dog and small cat that will soon need cat food and litter and out dog has sometime before he needs dog food. I am going to a food bank this weekend.
My husband was trying to apply for unemployment but the new ID me thing is not letting him log in correctly and that is a whole mess. Since I just got married applying for food stamps is gonna take longer because I have to wait for a new social security card.
My job is at a hospital in dietary so I don’t have to worry about packing lunch and any left overs at night I have been taking home to help food wise.
It has only been a month and we are gonna be far behind fast.
It has been a long journey and the past 3-5 years has been the most stable I have ever been. This really reeked havoc on us financially and we just need help to cover bills before the end of this month. And maybe for September. I am not sure.
I am on an 11 day stretch at work I am trying to hold in my tears as I read this over and over again on my lunch break trying to make sure this is all written well.
My husband is just is stressed and neither of us can sleep well. My youngest kids aren’t aware but my daughter is old enough to notice our stress.
Just need a month or two of help. I guess my total financial help is around $1,390 that is to cover August bills…September will probably be tight since my hubby will have to wait for his first pay check, that is if we get a answer on time for Monday or Tuesday when the guy gets back from his vacation.
This isn’t including the cost of buying food, toiletries and gas. For one month of help we need $1,390 and maybe $100 toward food and $80 to maybe help with gas until my next paycheck which is Sept 8th.
For two months we would need $2,780 plus food and gas.
Just seeing these numbers and laying it out is killing me…
Thank you all for taking the time to read this. To help, We are doing all we can to make ends meet.
We shouldn’t have trusted are roommate and tried to depend on her word. We should have been more responsible and made sure he was fully employed and saved for the end of the year. But we wanted to be hopeful and our lives have both been looking up the past few years. I have never been this stable in all my
Life, I thought I was really getting out of the crap from my childhood and past, going through the system and all and trying to be successful has been a hard road, I really thought things were looking up for our lives.
This was strangely helpful way to vent a little, I have no one to confide in as both my hubby and I don’t have much family. If anything thanks for listening/reading I guess.
Thank you, Thank you!
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P.s. I forgot to post my PayPal and I had to make a collage of the photos for my bills because I didn’t realize I could only post one photo.