My name is Samantha. I am in a financial bind. I’m asking for donations to help me get my heat pump replaced. I hate asking but I am stuck with no other options.
So I have been a caregiver for my Mom for the past 7 years. My Mom is 76 y.o. She suffers from memory issues, iron & b12 deficiencies, just to name a few health issues we had to keep track of.
My Mom had went to a lawyer to draw up legal papers to put the house in a life estate to mea few years ago. She made me her Healthcare POA and Durable POA. My parents brought this house in 1986. I was in the 6th grade. I’ve lived in this house for most of my life. I have a lot of good memories in this home. It’s in a good and safe area for a single woman. I have good neighbors that look out for each other.
I am 46 y.o. and had moved back home to care for my Mom. I took her to all of her appointments. I made sure she had her meds and took them. I handles all her bills. COVID really took a toll because I couldn’t take her places this past year & she couldn’t get together with friends for outings. I have two older siblings that haven’t been around much.My siblings have their own places in other states. They have been living their life.
I transferred jobs and took a pay cut within my company because it offered me a chance to work from home so I wouldn’t have to find caregivers for my Mom during my working hours. I have to life close to my work in case they stop allowing us to work remote. So I have to stay in this area.
Well in January of this year, my Mom fell and broke her hip and she went into rehab. She came home in the middle of February. Well at the end of March my Sister decided to take her to GA, keep her and just put her in a facility. I don’t know where she is at and can’t talk to her unless I go thru my sister. My Sister listens in to the call and if she doesn’t like something I say she takes the phone away to argue with me. I can’t go to my Sisters place which I think is where my Mom is or my Sister will have me arrested for trespassing. Within a week of my sister taking my Mom she removed me from my moms account. She wants me to pay homeowners insurance and all the other bills with the house. I am caring my Moms two dogs that she left behind.
I have dealt with 5 lawyers, two police departments, DSS, Probate court regarding my situation which has gotten expensive. The problem is it’s because my sister took her to another state. I have not been notified that I’ve been revoked from any legal paperwork. I can’t provide this information to wherever my Mom is because my Sister will not tell me.
All furniture and my Moms stuff is here with my stuff mixed in. My Sister tells me that I need to move out of the house so she can get renters in, I need to buy my Mom out, or I can rent the house in June. She then messaged me saying I need to be out or start paying her rent on August 1. She plans to sell everything in the house as an estate sell because “that’s what Mom wants”. She has been trying to get my Mom to sell since my Dad passed away. She wanted to put Mom in a facility almost as long.
Anyways, the problem is this house has me and my Mom on the deed because of the life estate. I can’t get a home equity loan to do home repairs or consolidate my credit card bills that I’ve racked up because of this situation unless my Mom signs the paperwork as well. I found out I have an $900 electric bill because I’m not getting the bills since I left them in my Mom’s name. I set the bill up on auto pay that for some reason the company cancelled so it’s two months late. (The mail was forwarded to my Sister’s address so I don’t get the bills by mail or any notifications.).
I am lost. I have went through severe depression since I have devoted my life to caring for my Mom. I basically lost my Mom. I don’t have a clue what to do for fear of my Sisters’s manipulative actions. She likes to spin things so she looks good and she believes she is never wrong. The last lawyer is able to assist me if and when I need her to help fight any legal issues that come up with this situation.
The heat pump was put in after my Father passed away in 2002. It is on it’s last leg. It keeps freezing up. It’s making a horrible racket. I have spoken to a local Heating and Air guy that came out to put Freon in it a few weeks ago which gave me a quote to replace it. He stated it probably will not make it through summer. Originally it cost $10,000 but this guy is stating he would charge only $5,900. The house is tri-level and has approximately 1,300 sq ft livable space and 2,100 sq ft of total space including the garage. This guy is stating he would put in a 2 ton unit, check all the ducts in each of the rooms and add any additional to make sure I had proper ventilation.
I am asking for financial help to try to replace my heat pump so I can check one thing off my long list of worries. I and the two dogs would be eternally grateful for any assistance.
Thank you for your time.