I am a 25 year old male, and about four years ago, I moved to Canada to live with my partner. We were in love, and I came over on a student visa, planning to do my schooling for computer science and IT. I had quite a bit of money saved up when I moved, and my partner had planned to assist me in paying for the rest of my schooling. However, due to unforeseen circumstances, like my partner’s sudden depression about his toxic work environment and his job industry taking a dive, I found myself helping out my boyfriend by giving him some of the money I had saved up for school.
We tried to keep ourselves afloat as best we could, but he couldn’t keep a job stable due to his mental illness and depression. Since I was not in school at the moment, having given a lot of money to help him, I couldn’t find myself a job to help with the bills and rent. Before long, we found ourselves selling his home and moving back in with his parents.
They accepted us and did their best to help us back on our feet. My partner tried his best to pull jobs from his trade as a pipe fitter but his health only got worse, physically and mentally. He got diagnosed with diabetes, clinical depressed, and even suicidal at one point. He couldn’t hold down a job, and I could do nothing but offer him my unconditional support. He even tried to get a job outside his trade, such as a retailer or customer service job, but no matter how many times he sent resumes to various places, they never called him back.
We spent about two years living with his parents, and his father, often being the only sole income earner in the family, did his best to support us. It wasn’t the most comfortable at times, but we had a roof over our head and food. We were grateful.
However, very recently, we found out that my partner’s mother, had secretly amassed a very large amount of debt over the past year and a half, and she had not told anyone about it. We had no idea what was happening, and only discovered recently because she was quieter than usual and quietly panicking about the money situation. As it turns out, she opened a line of credit where she shouldn’t have and created so much debt, her husband (my partner’s dad) would be ruined forever.
She basically destroyed our lives, and now my partner’s dad is planning to sell his home and move away. He basically told us that we needed to make arrangements to leave because he could no longer support us. My partner is currently trying to ask for help from his other family, but nobody seems to want anything to do with us because they possibly think we are losers and deadbeats. We tried our best with the situation we were dealt with, I was even learning how to create a website to help my partner’s dad get his books published and sold so we could have extra income in the house. My partner had even found a job and was hoping to turn this all around, but due to Covid-19, his job and all the other contracts got cancelled until further notice.
We don’t know how long we have left in this house, but we are planning for the worst. We are already planning to sell a bunch of our personal items and give away the two cats we have with us, despite how much we love them and how much it will devastate us both.
Any amount of money anyone can spare will be appreciated. Thank you for reading this and thank you for anything you can give.