Hi, oof where do I start? So for the past three years my Girlfriend and I have been living together with her family. It started when we both left our homes to try and pursue a better living situation.. We blew through all the money we had saved and ended up back at her family’s house. During that time we slept in public parks with blankets, friends floors, couches, closets you name it. Her grandmother offered for us to live in a house she owns in a different state. Things were working out for a bit until COVID set us back and we lost our jobs.(if we would have known the abuse and manipulation we have endured we would have chosen to stay homeless) Now we are back at the Family’s house where we started and we’re living in her little brothers room sleeping on a twin bed on the floor. For the past 3 years we’ve endured major emotional and verbal abuse from her family. Everyday in this household is hell.. No matter what do we to progress and help, everyone in the house is always making our lives miserable. From her mother who throws her kids under the bus for her parents just because they have money, to her little brother who doesn’t respect his elders, gets away with murder and is constantly hitting and disrespecting my girlfriend. Then there’s the grandparents. Very old school and only want to help for control. We are literally not allowed to sit down for too long without getting screamed at and guilt tripped for living in the house. They don’t know todays world so they don’t understand how hard it is to get a start for 2 young people (I’m 23 about to be 24, she’s 20 about to be 21). Every day is constant bickering and verbal abuse to the point my mental health is in shambles. My anxiety is so bad I almost do nothing because I’m afraid that anything I do will cause an argument. (To give you an example when we first moved to the house the grandmother owned she complained about us not having jobs. We then both get jobs and go to school she then starts complaining that “All you do is go to school and work everyday” Yes, I’m serious. This is the kind of person we are dealing with. There’s no winning.) Fast forward to now we’re in the little brothers room sleeping on the floor, looking at apartments we can’t afford and making plans with money we don’t have. I’m so scared of what will happen to us if we stay here.. We are both in so much pain just living here everyday. Everyone in the house lives like pigs and my girlfriend and I are expected to follow everyone around with a broom and if we don’t we get called lazy and some harsher words. Instead of changing their lifestyle they expect us to enable it. Her grandparents offered to fix up the basement as a space for us to live in. The basement is cluttered, no problem. They tell us to throw stuff out to make space for construction. We do it. The next day we screamed at for touching the stuff and my girlfriends mother (who was there helping us move/throw out the things) immediately throws my girlfriend under the bus saying it was her and completely removing herself from the equation and placing all the blame on us. We’ve decided to just get away and not rely on them anymore. This is the constant cycle we live in every single day. Everyone in the household constantly disrespects my girlfriend to the point where she’ll just silently cry as everyone is screaming at her. I just want the both of us to have a better life.. I wish there was more I could do for her but I have almost nothing to offer.. My Mother passed away in 2016 (when I was 18) and she was the only kindhearted one in my family so I have literally no one else to turn to. If I leave here I end up on the streets and I leave my Girlfriend behind to deal with that hell all alone. My father is unavailable and essentially drove my mother to her death by secretly finding a new woman, abandoning us 100 miles away with a newborn (my little brother) leaving us homeless.. All I want is to be able to remove ourselves from this situation and get away from her family. I love this woman with all my heart and I’ve been with her for 7 years. She is the love of my life and I wish to bring her a better life so badly. Please if anyone has even read this far… I just want to get us out of here and start our lives so we can focus on our education and careers and eventually a family…
Anything would help as we are both broke and just want to move out so badly. I’m not sure what amount to ask for. $10,000, $20,000, $45,000? Heck even $1,500 would help because it’s more than what I have now.. Please if anyone reads this and can help we would both appreciate it so much you would have no idea how much of a difference in our lives you’d be making. All we want is stability, privacy and peace of mind to focus on our futures…
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