Hi everyone, my name is Vanessa and I’m a 21 years old girl form Italy. I’m living with my fiancé because I had to run away from my parents: my mother always treated me badly (insulting and denigrating me) and my father never cared, on the contrary he always stuck up for her when I complained. My mother only cooked for my father and got angry when I cooked for myself, so most times I was eating at fast foods. All of this while I worked to pay their loan, bills and food (most of which I couldn’t even eat).
Meanwhile my fiancé and I were looking for a rent for months. We even got to eating only one meal a day to save money. Given that most of our money went to my parents (he helped me as much as he could), it wasn’t easy.
Now we’ve been living together for three months but I still have to pay my parents’ loan; at least they’re paying their other expenses themselves. Things were going decently: we both don’t smoke nor drink alcohol so the money left after my parents’ loan and our rent was just enough for food and bills; there wasn’t any left to be saved up but at least we’re eating regularly now.
Problems arose when I lost my job: my job contact expired on the beginning of March and it was going to be renewed, but because of the coronavirus emergency I didn’t have the chance since the company where I worked has closed temporarily, my usual luck… My boss told me that when the emergency ends I’ll be signed a new contract and my fiancé is working overtime as much as he’s allowed to, but it probably won’t be enough money for the next month.
So here I am, desperate for help, and my fiancé doesn’t even know I’m doing this: I feel too ashamed to tell him because the fact that we couldn’t save up any money until now is just because of my parents, so I feel guilty for it. I couldn’t stop paying for their loan because since my father has been jobless for years and he doesn’t want to start working again, the money the State gives him is not enough.
Thanks for reading this. I’m not asking for a lot of money, just enough to survive for another month…