It was early May. I had it made. My husband had a Saturday off for the first time in many months. I had it made. Because we had a happy healthy baby that I could sit on the floor with. Hold in my arms for more than minutes a day.
I had it made. Because we were going to get a new car soon after consolidating previous medical bills and school loans. I had it made. Because I could move without hardware all through the right side of my body.
On May 11th I was taking my small family in our only vehicle at the time to go have some family fun together. It was a rainy day. But we knew our 15 month old would love to go to a children’s inside playing area at our local mall. I had plans for so much more as my husband and I were also going to buy the car I wanted for Mother’s Day.
On our way to the mall. Which is normally about a 40 minute drive. We had been on the road for about 10 minutes. As the rain came pouring. The likes of which normally tell people to slow down. I did so. From the range of 55 to 45.
But not everybody thinks this way. And that is what changes lives. She lost her lane in a curve about half a mile back. Not knowing where she was of looking ahead as she was trying to maintain her lane.
Four vehicles avoided her before I could not. This due to the unfortunate scenario that I was in a lane pinned in between a car needing to turn on my left and a car riding around 48 to 50 mph on my right. Fast enough to get by me but not inherently dangerous.
I had the ability to slow down to 35 miles per hour and swerve my car just enough to get rammed in on my side of the car. In fact. This saved my life as well as my daughter and husbands life.
My daughter of 15 months made it out with bruising and my husband made it out with a broken sternum and broken hand. This is why I took the impact on my side of the car. Because they were on the passengers side of the vehicle.
I wouldn’t change a thing on this front. But because of this. I am in a wheel chair. I have had multiple surgeries and will need a few more to increase my quality of life.
I spent from late May til early June in rehab after being laid up in a hospital bed from the day of the accident. My husband unable to work did his best to help me with his broken hand and sternum as family took care of my daughter. It was around 31 days of mostly laying around with much pain and much suffering as many parts of my body ached from the idea of moving.
While we knew that buying a car would be impossible at this point as my husband tried to return to work but had to battle both my demons and his own. Causing him to need more time off to learn to take care of my daughter.
Our renters did not allow us a free month of rent or anything of the such. It’s a business in the end, but as time passes these things add up along with money to get food for our daughter and pay for help outside of family for care of our daughter.
So upon the time we were closing in on my leaving rehab I had to borrow a car to leave and it wasn’t pleasant. It was indeed very hard to get back on the road. But I thought about how the scariest time I ever drove in truth was when I brought my baby home from the hospital after she was born.
Rehab was not at all simple easy or painless. But also couldn’t be compared to what happened when we got home. Because it was like nothing was meant to be right and I almost thought to beg to return to rehab.
My apartment we have at the time does not had a wheelchair ramp. Nor did my wheelchair fit in any of the doorways when I came home. My husband did his best to remove doors and door-frames. But it isn’t exciting.
Many things I simply cannot do. Whether it is because of pain or the wheelchair. But the hardest was changing from a stay at home Mom to not being able to do near as much with or for my daughter. My husband of course needs to go back to work as he is recovering and we need money. But this also means I will need help and funds to pay help.
With all of this. The need for a vehicle with access to a wheelchair, the need for a better living situation and help to get somebody to car for my baby. I cannot thank enough in advance. Everything is welcome and I thank you for any help given.