Where to even begin? Lets begin with the month of Oct, as it was horrific & is still continuing on….
My 3 minis & I had left behind our old lives due to feeling scared of an ex of mine still having keys to the home I had rented. (Thankfully he wasn’t ever put on my lease so it was easy to kick him out physically with the help of the p.d after physical abuse was reported for my oldest daughter.
We moved shortly after to what I thought was going to be a wonderful new start. Boy howdy was I wrong! On top of paying to move states away, I was asked to pay over 3500 on a security deposit. Which I thought was really odd bc I had good credit & rental history, but I did due to the tranquility the house provided for us & not to mention after viewing so many in such a short period of time with the way the housing market is if you didn’t put in an application the houses seemed to go next day. This one we all fell in love with. Also made a really good friend already after only 2 weeks there which is a neighbor. (God send!!)
However upon the day of moving in, the sewer was clogged causing it to overflow in the master bath from the toilet & tub as well as the washer line. Next day, both reps came out & in person seen the flooding in the laundry room. I was assured someone would be out same day to repair & clean the mess. No one was, but next day was the floor flooding in the master bathroom. Sent photos to 1 rep, the only one responding back to me at this point, & he put in for emergency services. Someone did come out next day to snake both lines, but was a 2 day fix with the request not to use the washer line. Reported it again, took 2 weeks for someone to come out to do the same thing, then a week later camera the line to see huge cracks in the line for thr master, but did remedy the washer line. (Woo-hoo as laundry doesn’t wait, especially for kids!) Super grateful for that fix, but I was told no solids for my bathroom. So at this point I’m paying 2100 to live like I’m camping. Very unhygienic & if you even have one younger child then you know that magically they have to use the toilet in emergency status any time you need to go! Lol so imagine 3 times that….
It has been one month and 3weeks now living like this. My only options here in the great state of FL is to send a letter to the rental company to notify them to remedy the entire issue within 7 days or I can then legally “withhold rent” or can opt to move. Now mind you I had already shelled out over 5500 to even move in & since this all started, (there were also other maintenance issues to be fixed added), I am self employed, but this caused me to not be able to work most all of the month of Oct due to having to be home pretty much the whole day on almost every other day so someone could come here to work on something or cleaning up messes from the overflowing. So neither remedy is going to help as I have at this point 500 to my name left which will be gone day after Thanksgiving to car insurance. (The “rent withholding” only means it’s all due in back- pay once the issues are fixed) which obviously I don’t have as well.
Then of course I thought I had found my absolute God send. A guy offering to pay my credit cards for me. Long story short there all accounts said processing only to find out after doing so he tried to get me to send him $ thru the available funds a couple showed in an apple gift card or currency exchange on bitcoin. Now mind you, I’m not stupid by any means & knew at this point it was a scam. He then threatened to call his bank to file fraud, but after that threat I did just that. Notified them myself of this incase he tried. Efforts were futile as they all came back reversed/returned. When i called both companies to explain the situation I was informed it was done so bc of nsf, not on fraud. Which both I guess had in their policies if this were to happen, my accounts were then all closed. So now I’m out over 6k I was able to rely on for my assistance with finances. Nothing I can do about it either.
I have since then been trying to find another job, but would have to be part time due to no family or friends I could have watch my 3 to work average hours, let alone if any or all get sick & had to stay home. No luck there & in order to do more than just a small scope for under 300 a job here, I have to take tests & pay for licensing, test fees, business ins, workers comp & more to even do what I do for a living. Smh
I am writing up the 7day notice today, but all that will do at most is stall on payment for rent. Money I still owed on my c.c’s are now due in full (4850), rent (2100), car payment (650 & also going on 2 moths behind on), utilities (400) & ins (550) all due again here real soon. I would like to think it couldn’t get any worse, but being homeless along with my car being repoed while living in it with my 3 right before Xmas would def be the cherry on top.
I have done all I can with the state for assistance. 108 is what they offer in tanf for 0 income even after giving them the numbers on my bills… idk how even a single person could survive a month on that for all necessities let alone additions with kids, even just 1! No financial help from their father for the last 8 years either as he made sure he lives in a state where he cannot be touched more or less.
I was going to see if I can get a pell grant for a nail tech cert & operate from my residence for no extra expenses incurred, but that takes time. As all paperwork does… so here I am. Asking for help from total strangers for the welfare of my kids. I won’t ever give up trying to provide for them on my own, but damn could I use some assistance from an angel right about now.
God bless you for even having read this taking time from your day. If anything comes from this please, just know I promise to use the funds the way they are intended. I’ve never in my life asked for a handout until now & I’m completely ashamed having to do so. Sigh
All I can hope for is a blessing & that maybe this story has made someone else realize their life isn’t as bad as they think bc no matter what, someone somewhere has is harder than you!!! So please learn to be grateful for at least the time we have here to spend with the ones we love. Especially around the holidays as my love for my 3 will hopefully be enough for them this year.
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