My name is Amy. I am 36, mother of 15 year old twin girls, recently lost my job and no longer have a vehicle. I have helped my boyfriend of 9 years build his Garage Door Sales and Service business from the ground up starting in 2018 and he and his business are doing really well. I put myself through school years ago and earned an Associate of Science in Medical Billing and Coding degree which put me in debt. I then struggled to find work due to getting into trouble when I was 19 years old. I made a few mistakes that unfortunately continue to follow me almost 20 years later. Then I decided to enroll in college once again and go for a Bachelor’s degree in Business. Which added significantly to my debt. I completed 1/3 of my degree before having to put school on hold because we lost our home in November 2021. Living in hotels and renting two rooms from a friend while I found work helped us get stable enough to afford the house we are living in now.
Over the last 9 years I have been with my boyfriend who is not the father of my kids, and I can’t take it anymore. It was years ago that I realized I was in an abusive relationship with a narcissist who is super charming and great at lying. He has hit me in the face, actually broke my right orbital socket and my face is never going to look the same as it did. He controls everything I do from isolating me from other people to the point where I have no friends of my own, to demeaning all my attempts at a career that doesn’t include the garage door business. He has let my two vehicles sit broken for years without helping me get them fixed and I have lost them both when we lost our house. I had an okay job as a property manager of a storage facility in the next town over but that lasted only ten months before he convinced me to go against company policy and I was fired because of a situation he created. That was in October of 2022. Since then he has continued to get enraged when I talk about finding a job of my own. He guilts me into working for him installing garage doors and promises to pay me. But he never does. He hasn’t paid rent this month and I fear we are going to lose another house. I have to ask him for money for everything. And every time I do he makes me feel like I am inconveniencing him and over the years I have just learned how to go “without”
My girls are turning 15 years old on April 25th and I have not even a dime to get them gifts so I will have to ask him for money. I work almost everyday(including weekends) with him for no pay so I have zero ability to look for another job. And now the car he has been so graciously letting me drive (a 2003 Nissan Sentra with 237,000 miles) is about to quit. I feel hopeless and trapped. The cherry on top of all of my pain is I found out that he has been sleeping with another woman for the last 5 1/2 months. And has no intention of ending it with her and won’t leave me either. He says he loves me and wants me and needs me but then lies about what he does and where he goes. I am so angry at him and even more at myself for becoming so dependent on this man who has mistreated me for so many years. I have no where to go and I have literally nothing. My credit is destroyed. I cannot get a loan for anything. I cannot get a credit card. My family has no ability to help me financially and I cannot live with them either.
so as a desperate cry for help I found this site and am begging anyone to help me.
I need enough money to buy a decent car with four wheel drive because of where I live in Colorado and also to secure a deposit and two months rent on an apartment so me and my girls can get away from him. My goal is $20,000.00. I know it is a huge amount of money but I give my word that every cent will go to rebuilding a new life for me and my girls. I would love to be in a position where I can help other women who are abusive relationships find worth in themselves and find the strength to get out before it’s too late.
Thank you for your time.