A couple months ago, my husband of 5 years decided he wanted to leave. We had one month left on our apartment lease and we were talking about buying a house and taking the next steps towards a family. At the time, we took a family member who needed guidance and help due to issues with mental health. My ex did not care about leaving them either. He had a much better paying job and took responsibility for major things like rent, water, electricity. I did my best to provide for any other needs, something he never complained about. However, because we were planning (atleast I was) to buy a home, he convinced me to remove money from my 401k. I trusted this man. The little I was approved for very quickly became the way we kept afloat after he left.
It very quickly disappeared, and at the age of 27, I had to move back in w my parents. They, however, were not in a good financial spot to take two family members and a dog in. They had downsized tremendously after I got married, and now, all of a sudden, bills and expenses have doubled. They don’t complain but I see them struggling over bills and I help them as much as I can. They provided for me for years and would continue to do so, but it was my turn to help them
To make matters worse, when things were finally looking to be ok, my car got totaled. Any little bit that was saved, was now gone. After months of having to share cars and relying on rides from family, friends and even coworkers, I was finally able to find something that wouldn’t blow up on the way to work. That was short lived, as not very long after, my family member and I got into another accident. Neither my fault. Both traumatizing and causing major anxiety, to the point I’m on medication. Now I have medical bills coming in and insurance claims piling up.
I just need help to get the ball rolling again. To be able to get a sort of cleaner slate where I can get back on my feet. Too many times I put others before me, and now I need for myself and it’s almost too late. So I ask for help.