Greetings! We found out in February 2023 that my father is in stage 4 lung cancer and the doctors are saying he’s too weak for chemo . They wanted him on hospice but he begged me to please let him come home with me that he doesn’t want to die in a place like that etc etc as well as I don’t feel right about it either. I’d rather try alternatives I know worked for other people even in stage 4 and even if it doesn’t work at least he’s in the care of someone who loves him and where he will be more comfortable vs a facility where many people get treated badly on top of everything else. However, I had to leave my job temporarily to be his caregiver and to some people they’d think that was a dumb decision and maybe it wasn’t very logical but I couldn’t tell my father no and I have to try with all of my being to see if the alternative treatments can work and I’ll live with regret if I don’t try. Hes only 59yrs young he has so much more life he can live. My father and I didn’t always get along , in fact we were like enemies at a time but I’ve healed from that ,he’s my father ,I love him and I’m going to continue to do anything I can for him and he will not fight this battle alone ! It is in the works for me to get paid to be his caregiver but it takes months for the process from what I’m told by the social worker and between my bills,my fathers bills like his car payment etc and all the things I need to get him healthy I’ve been rapidly going through my savings. I also have children to support and I didn’t know things would be this costly ,I knew things would be tight until I could figure something out but I wasn’t prepared for how it actually is and I emphasize on the word “rapidly” as far as the money I am going through depleting my savings. I was saving to buy a home and start a business. My car needs to go in the shop and ive had to put that on hold as well as much more. There is also a hospital that does all of the alternative treatments when chemo isn’t an option and they have a 65% success rate in just the first 3 weeks! That’s pretty good for 3 weeks but the cost is $20,000 to have him treated . Im a giver always have been abd I never thought I’d actually have the strength to swallow my pride and ask for help especially to people I don’t know but im actually desperate for the 1st time in my life and I want my father to have a fighting chance but with the amount of money I’m going through It’s too difficult to make it happen right now and stage 4 he doesn’t have a whole lot of time. It be amazing if I could get the cost of the treatment but im realistic about it and really at this point if I could at least just het some kind of help for all of the living expenses, things he needs, and to be able to pay an aide at least once or twice a week so that I can actually get more things in life done that I can’t handle from home and a little help would be so amazing as I literally do everything and I do it alone. He gets delusional (my father) from the meds and cancer and constantly making a mess ,he urinated on the floor multiple times bc hes not realizing what he’s doing and so out of it from everything .I barely get any sleep bc he needs constant supervision and I never know when he’s gonna have an episode so I’m lucky if I can get a straight hour of sleep. I get 10 to 15 min tiny naps sitting up so I’d be extremely greatful just to be able to pay someone for a few hours so I can rest..anything would be a major help to me at this point! Anything! I’m only touching the surface ..its very rough right now. I don’t regret the decision and I never will but wether I do or not doesn’t make anything easier and I’m okay with that if that’s the way its going to be but I had to try ..I did a search and learned about this site and I felt thar pull to just try what’s it gonna hurt. I even wish there was a way I could pay back if given anything.