Do you know what it’s like to be a victim of domestic abuse? To finally have it click, you finally realize that you’re being abused and then you realize you can’t get out. If you have, I’m sorry, and if you haven’t I truly hope you never have to find out.
While I want to be upfront about my situation, I am being careful with personal information as I cannot have him find out I’m trying to leave. I’m a young mother to an under year old and I’m stuck in an abusive relationship with my narcissistic boyfriend. At the start, the things that should have been clear red flags unfortunately I didn’t see. He blamed his insecurities for the need of control, for how he treated me and how he acted. After our child came I finally convinced him to go to couples therapy. When he didn’t like the things the therapist was saying (calling out and labelling his behaviour as abusive) of course we stopped going. At this point he’s moved me across the country from anyone I know, cut out my ability to contact people, taken out credit cards and maxed them under my name, taken out and defaulted on loans under my name, bought cars under my name and defaulted. He’s entirely ruined my credit and he hasn’t allowed me to get a job for the entirety of the relationship. While at the start the abuse was non physical it has now taken a turn towards him getting violent or saying I deserve to be hit. He doesn’t allow me to shower or have clean clothes because he doesn’t want me to leave the house. I need to get my child, my pets and myself out as soon as possible.
I have no job, limited access to the internet, very little in savings, no car, and an absolutely ruined credit. But I’m taking a chance to post this in hopes that maybe somebody can help contribute to me getting money together to get my own place, my own car and get on track to get my life restarted. I refuse to have this be how my child has to grow up but it’s incredibly hard to escape when he monitors, controls and manipulates everything. The biggest goal right now is for me to get enough money together to have a few months rent in place and a damage deposit as it’s not easy finding a place without having a job. If this is something you can help contribute to, my PayPal is below and honestly, thank you from the bottom of my heart. For either sending money or just taking the time to read this.