We are raising money for My granddaughter who has been being Physically and Emotionally and Mentally abused by her father and her fathers girlfriend.
has finally opened up about all the abuse she has been taking for the past 4 years by her father and her fathers friend.
We got her whole confession recorded. She confessed On Friday 28th 2019.
I can’t go into details about the kind of abuse she was going threw because anything that is said is used against Her by her father.
She made another confession that I happened to get part of it recorded Saturday September 29 2019.
So on Sunday the 29th we got up early and went to the Lancaster County Police Station to file for an Emergency PFA for Scarlet. When we go there they told us we need to go to the police station that is closest to our home. We were under the impression that because the case is threw Lancaster County that’s where we had to go.
So we headed towards home made the phone call to the police station. They said they would have someone call me.
Pacing back and forth waiting for that call to see if someone will finally listen.
An amazing Police Officer called and she asked us a bunch of questions and collected information from us.
She then said I have to locate the judge that is on-call and explain to him what you have told me and see what he says and I will call you back.
By now I have bit all my nails off.
The phone rings it’s the same Officer and she had a few more questions that the judge told her to ask us so we again told her what she needed to know and she gave us the location and address to where we have to go to see the judge.
So after driving 45 minutes to Lancaster and 45 minutes back and now we have to drive 1 hour to where the judge that is on call is located. So we head there and we get there and I have no nails left to buy and I have probably asked Her a million times if she is sure this is what she wants and if she is sure this is what she wants to do.
I want the decision to be made by her because ultimately I feel she should get to pick where she wants to live as long as it is a safe environment for her. She yet again said she is sure. I told her she may never see her dad again because of the horrible horrible things he has done to her. And she said she never wants to see him again for the rest of her life.
So the judge gets there I have a whole entire bag of documents. I have all the court orders since 2014 I have all the Prior PFAs we had against him. I have all the children and youth cases that were opened against him and the case that is currently open. I have all his contempt violations. I have been keeping track each day that She just openly says to me.
I have no idea how She stayed this strong for this long. I knew about the abuse happening and we have literally tried everything we could to get her out of it. But she was so scared for her life and for her families lives being takin by her dad that she wouldn’t never talk. She would tell us things and beg us not to tell her dad or to not let her dad know. We would never tell her dad anything but it killed us not to be able to stick up for her. We have been in and out of court since 2014. It’s been a long battle and a ugly one. She has suffered the most. No matter how hard we tried. No matter how much proof and how much evidence we had against Her father we just could not get anywhere. We get the same out come every time.
September 2nd 2019 when we dropped Her to her dad and he flipped out because we had put color in Her hair. She earned it fair and square. It was not all of her hair just some purple and blue and teal it looked amazing. Her father and fathers girlfriend started yelling and screaming and calling her names and calling us names. He told us to get out of the car and fight him. He chased after our car. He yelled and he screamed at Her and us calling us every name in the book.
Then he grabbed Her by her hair and yanked her by her hair into the house and up the stairs and into the bathroom and forced her in the shower and told her she could not come out till all the color was out of her hair.
That was it.
I contacted Her School they contacted Children and Youth. I contacted my therapist about it. I also contacted children and youth myself to make them aware of all the abuse.
I had honestly given up on Child and Youth because they never helped us in anyway. We have had about 8 open cases with records of abuse.
Soo. It began. Documenting anything and everything I can each day. From talking to the guidance counselor to Scarlets teacher to my therapist. I couldn’t allow this to happen I had to come up with a plan of action and a plan that would hopefully somehow some way get Her the help she needs.
We are going to fight till there is nothing left.
So my plan was to communicate with the school as much as possible. To contact her teacher as much as possible. And to make sure I do everything by the court order and the book. There is no time for error anymore. No time for mistakes. No time.
She thinks her dad is going to kill her and her family.
Have you ever heard your child say that?
Have you ever had to watch your child say those exact words?
I can’t even begin to try to explain how We felt or what we felt or anything.
But we knew this was our chance. This was our chance to help scarlet and get scarlet out of this horrible situation.
Sitting there holding Her in my arms as she cries like I have never heard her cry before. As she is telling me about all the abuse and the horrible things that they were doing to her constantly. Just rubbing her hair and holding her close and loving her.
So even tho I wanted nothing more then to break down with her I couldn’t do that. I had to stay strong I had to be strong I had to do whatever I could to help.
Hearing the awful things Scarlet says about her self just killed us. I knew it was bad but I had no idea that it was this bad.
She got picked up by the throat.
She got smacked anywhere and everywhere with an open hand and a closed hand.
She was locked out of the house.
She got told they were going to kick her out and she can’t live there anymore.
She got hit with a belt.
She was almost ripped out of a moving vehicle.
She would get choked.
She would get pushed so hard she would nearly fall down.
She would get thrown on the floor and on the stairs and on her bed and the couch.
She wasn’t allowed to have friends.
And I can keep going trust me I have pages and pages and pages of information.
We can’t give up. We have to fight the hardest we have ever fought before.
She is now old enough to testify.
We pulled a new judge.
She will have her own lawyer again.
We can’t let her go back to that situation.
I’m not asking for a certain amount of money. We literally have nothing because of all the fees and lawyers and court costs and constables.
So we got the EPFA so now we go to court to see if we can get it to stick them if the judge agrees with it we will go to another hearing and both parties will get to present their case.
We need all the help we can get. We can’t let Her go threw anymore abuse.
I not exactly sure what Her lawyer is charging us and I’m not sure how much the constable is charging.
She can’t be by her self. We have papers on the wall with all required information she needs to report to 911 Incase something happens. We have rehearsed our safety plan over and over again. The cops are checking on the house multiple times. We locked every single door and every single window. We hung blankets over every door and every window. She can’t get out of the car untill we give her the go ahead. Someone has to walk in the house first before her and someone has to walk in after her.
Also when we go to court she will have an escort because she does not want to see her father or talk to her father. She is scared to death.
We will keep trying! We will keep doing everything we can! But we need some help!