Where to begin. I am struggling just to survive. I have cried out to God over and over. I apologize in advance as this is lengthy. I divorced a few years back and that is where things went from good to bad. I virtually lost everything. My kids, The home I paid on for 10 years and basically all the contents, even my dog. My ex remarried 8 DAYS after our divorce was final. We we’re married 10 1/2 years. The divorce only took 9 months and she remarried 8 days later, something was up long before I left the home! The only things I received were the clothes I left with, most of my tools and my truck. Thankfully my truck was paid off so that wasn’t a burden for me. I ended up losing the job I had also. I had worked there for almost 10 years, but when I was going through my divorce, my type 1 diabetes got out of control due to the stress. I lost nearly 60 pounds, from 200 down to 140. All that came off in less than 5 months. I couldn’t work because my blood sugar was so out of control, it would spike and bottom out. I went to the doctor many many times trying to get help with my issue. Needless to say, I lost my job due to missing work too much. Even with FMLA, I lost my job. With all that, job loss, excessive medical bills and trying to start over, I ended up getting behind on my child support for my 3 kids. I have been summoned to court on several occasions because of being behind on child support. The court district we lived in is completely biased as my ex’s family has a lot of clout there. I am an outsider, no family here and I am from another state 1000 miles away. The female judge ordered me to serve 120 days in jail for failure to pay child support. That cost me the last good paying job I had, one that could sustain my child support payments and provide me with the basics, shelter and food. At that time I had been working there for three months and my child support was being deducted and paid, but the judge still ordered me to jail because I was behind, costing me my job and forcing me further behind on my child support. I was even denied unemployment because they said I was at fault. That I didn’t go to work and lost my job due to attendance. Duh! Yes, I lost my job because I wasn’t able to come, I was in jail, so hence no supplemental income. Unemployment insurance that I earned. This is a vicious cycle that many divorced dads face everyday. Jailed for failure to pay, preventing them from working, trying to pay because they are in jail or keep getting ordered there. What happens in the long run, they are prevented from seeing their children because they either spend a ton of time in and out of jail or they have to leave the state to prevent being served again and again and ordered to jail over and over. While in jail do you think your ex would at least bring the kids to visit? Heck no! I haven’t seen my children in over a year because my ex is so vindictive she keeps pushing the courts to serve me and lock me up. I miss them so much. I cry to the Lord to protect them. The only way I can remedy this is to pay my back owed child support, which is now several thousand dollars and keeps increasing. This is almost impossible to catch up on without a miracle happening and coming upon a large sum of money to stop the cycle. Adding insult to injury, while in jail, they were not treating my diabetes properly, thus causing them to take me to the ER. They took me twice to the ER on the same day because my blood sugar was reading over 600 and or bottoming out under 40. I’m walked into the busy ER, in her hometown, a small town where everyone knows everyone. It was as if I was on parade, wearing a yellow jumpsuit, shackles on my feet, cuffed hands with chains around my waist. I was paraded and escorted as if I was a mass murderer. How humiliating all for being at the time a little over $3,000 behind on child support. Then I was informed that I am responsible financially for those ER visits, how am I responsible because of their negligence and failure to provide me with medication, proper treatment and proper diet. Then when I was returned to the jail, they put me in solitary confinement because they said I was eating sweets and candy from the other inmates. They kept feeding me a regular diet, (i.e…peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and foods loaded with carbs…carbs turn to sugar!!!) even after I told them this wouldn’t work. Unbelievable. A little while before all this, I found out from my 7 year old daughter that her new step brothers were touching her inappropriately and beating on my two younger sons. The step brothers are much older than my kids. They were 17 and 13 at the time. The grace of God kept me from going there and finding my own justice. I sold the only thing I had left to hire an attorney, my truck and have had no vehicle since. All of this was in vain because like I said her family has too much clout in the City and County we lived in. I even contacted DSS and got them involved, played and provided them the recordings where my daughter was telling me about what happened, vivid details, things a 7 year old couldn’t make up. They said they investigated and the case was unfounded. This happened because my ex wife previously worked as an investigator at DSS and she coached my daughter what to say to the investigators. She was then investigated by her former coworkers and bosses. Conflict of interest huh! She found out that it was me that filed the complaint and thus has had a revenge vendetta against me causing all the additional court summons and being jailed for back owed support. Thus I have had to give up on this problem and feel that I have simply failed to protect my children. I have been at the losing end of this from the beginning. I have received help from my family for my divorce, attorney fees, money for gas, food and shelter. I have pawned almost all of my tools and most of my other possessions. I have all but used up all that my family has and have even put my parents in a financial strain as they are in their 70’s. It is hard just to simply have a place to live. I ended up getting evicted from two places because I got behind on making my rent payments. Now it is almost impossible to rent anything anywhere because of the evictions. That said, I have been living in a motel for over a year now. Since I am a veteran, I went to the VA for assistance and I qualified for housing assistance. I had to requalify after 90 days. With having two evictions the search lasted more than 90 days, as it is difficult to find a landlord willing to accept me. During the 90 day period, I got the last good paying job I have had before being order to jail. Because of that job, I made too much money to continue to qualify for the program. Thus losing this housing assistance from the VA for three years. Since those days I have not been able to secure a good paying job, even though I am drug and alcohol free. I never abused any substances, I just smoked cigarettes before and quit when my first child was born. I have worked for many temp agencies, small odd jobs for homeowners and even washed dishes at a pizza place just to have food to eat. I have been to social services to try to at least get food stamps, but the hoops that have to be jumped through are astounding. I filed almost 3 months ago and have recently been denied all because they cannot verify from my last employer (temp job) that I no longer work there. They say they need a separation letter. I called the employer and they said they use a third party for that. I call the third party, they tell me the agency requesting the letter has to call and request it, that I cannot. I cannot provide the information the agency is requesting. How ridiculous. They provide me the numbers for them to call. My case worker calls and said that the contact number is not valid. I get them the contact numbers again. Same thing over and over. I give the agency the number I called and spoke to someone on. The case worker said he tried and couldn’t get the required information so my case was closed. What is going on! I don’t understand how so many people out there receive assistance and food stamps and here I am, virtually homeless, no car, no job, no income and I do not qualify. I don’t get it. I have nowhere else to turn. I have had a few churches assist me in paying for the motel room for a few weeks and have visited the food pantry. All the state agencies, the VA and 211(United Way), everytime I call one of them, they refer me to another agency. One would refer me to the other and then the other agency would refer me to another and then they would refer me back to the original agency I contacted. They keep sending me around in circles. I am at the end of my rope, I don’t know where else to go. This really is a summary of the way things been going, it does go deeper. I’m just at the end. If any of you reading this could help me in any way I would greatly appreciate it. My hope is in the Lord to see me through. May God Bless you all.