Hello, my name is Heather. I am grateful and happy to be an incredible, powerful, blessed person with a life of only love and goodness! I feel alive and awake in a way that I’ve longed for over the past 38 years of my life, but that wasn’t always the case.
My story is not unique. I’ve struggled with life’s challenges just like everyone else, maybe more than some, yet less than many others. Nonetheless, I invite you to read on as I share is a little glimpse of my adult journey:
I fell in love and got married when I was 25. I was excited about raising my adorable new 4 year old step-son and growing our family with more babies. But before we could even begin, my husband got sick and I was widowed less than 2 years into our marriage. Shortly after, I was evicted from our home and my car was repossessed all while I was fighting in court against my [step] son’s absent, drug-addicted biological mother who saw this as an opportunity to collect a bigger welfare check.
Because of the drugs his biological mother was doing while she was pregnant, he was born with 3 structural heart defects and endured several surgeries including major open-heart surgery as a baby. She lost custody when he was 6 months old, continued to abuse drugs and was not a part of his life at all for 7 years leading up to the day I filed for adoption.
In the end, the courts ruled her unfit to take custody and decided that removing him from the only family he’s ever known and placing him into foster care was not right either. So I was able to keep our family together after my husband’s passing. I’ve continued to raise my beautiful son with all the love, protection and guidance he deserves. Together, we have faced his father’s death, his search for identity beyond fear and resentment, his tourette’s syndrome, and his heart health. Today, he 17 years old, he just graduated high school, his heart is strong and his future is limitless!
As for me, the past 10 years were a constant struggle. One step forward, then five steps back. Countless hurdles just kept getting in my way. I became annoyed when people regurgitated nonsense at me like, “have faith, it will get better”, because I just didn’t believe it anymore. I was forced to enlist in a war against my own fate, so I put on my helmet, shielded my heart and angrily charged forward.
I hustled, I sacrificed, and I worked like a dog until I finally achieved my humble little slice of happiness! In 2015, I met my boyfriend, a wonderful man who treats me like gold and reciprocates the love and respect I have for him to this day. We moved into a lovely little rental house and have been here for 3 years. I took an entry level job starting at $10/hr and worked my way up to 3 promotions within a year. For the first time in my adult life, I was making $45,000/yr and paying all my bills on time. The best part was that I loved my job and the people I worked with. By the age of 36, I had finally established a simple, peaceful, stable life for myself!
But it didn’t last long and things started falling apart this year. My boyfriend had an accident. He was at a gas station when suddenly, for no known reason, he had a seizure and fell to the floor. On the way down, he banged his head on the counter so hard that he broke his neck! Now miraculously, just 3 months after the accident and spinal surgery, he has fully recovered! But during that time, he was only getting 60% of his regular pay and while I was struggling to make up the difference, the engine blew on my car. With no savings and a repossession on my credit report, I had to take out a loan with a 22% interest rate to finance a used car.
There were a few other setbacks along the way, but once my boyfriend returned to work and I was back on the road, the dust began to settle for a couple months. And then…..
After 3 years of success and dedication with the best company I’d ever worked for, my position was one of seven to be eliminated in the restructuring this past winter. I was blindsided, brokenhearted and terrified!
Baffled by my relentless misfortune, I wondered how so many bad things could keep happening to a good person who was actually TRYING. Paralyzed with fear and depression, I stopped fighting and gave up on life for 3 months. My finances quickly spun out of control, I didn’t recognize my own face in the mirror, and I was completely lost…….
But not anymore! I’m aware now! And I’m so grateful for what I’ve recently learned about myself and the power I have to attract all good things in my life! I will continue to grow and learn, live and love, give and recieve.
I’ve updated my resume, I’m actively job searching everyday, and I’m driving for Uber to earn a living in the mean time. I have faith that all of my needs are met immediately. Even if I don’t know how, I must ask. Right now, I’m asking for $1,100 to pay my rent for April and get my auto loan back in good standing.
Thank you for reading my story. Thank you for blessing me. And may you and your family continue to be blessed abundantly!!
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