To anyone out there that has taken the time to read this and is in a position to help. I don’t really have much hope that this this actually works but I am tired of suffering due to my own pride, its time i asked someone, anyone, for some help.
I am a former Australian Soldier who served for 7 years and competed 2 tours of Afghanistan. After I got out I met a girl, she was cool, I was pretty fucked up from my last tour and i needed someone so maybe thats why i decided to marry her.
It started not long after, we starting arguing. Before she was so open to my opinion and having a discussion about whatever it was we were talking about.
Suddenly no matter what it was, no matter how small, it had to be her way. Now i am not some weak willed man that can be trodden over. I wasn’t prepared to get walked on so we would have these massive arguments. some lasting for days. she would just get more and more extreme and yell louder and louder, ignoring and not acknowledging my points or logic of my side.
I was tired, I only got out of the army a year or so before. I started to agree with her just because why fight about it its only something small, maybe the insurance or colour of the new couch, because i knew what would happen 3 days of fighting stress unhappiness. once you start agreeing i had less and less willpower, i know it was weak but unless you have been through this emotional abuse you wont know what i mean. its domestic violence but to us. no one takes it seriously because we dont have any bruises or broken bones. eventually she convinced me to make her a partner in my small business i had set up with the money i saved from Afghanistan.
To cut an even longer story shorter, you can guess what happened. ran up debt on the business transferred all the money to international accounts and left the country.i need to pay off some of the most outstanding bill pay bond and the first months rent for a place. anyway any little bit would help. i am mid 30’s and have to start again from less then zero.
I hope I will be able to pay it forward at some point in the future.