I’ve been married for almost ten years and we have three amazing kids. A month ago I found out my wife has been having an affair.
My first reaction was to get a divorce. When we sat down and discussed it, she literally begged me not to leave and that she would do anything to make us work and keep the family together. I still really love her and decided to push a divorce back because I wanted to see where it was going to go.
Three different times since the initial conversation I have caught her lying about staying in contact with him. So now I am preparing myself for a divorce, because I am just so mentally and physically exhausted by her and her lies.
The problem is I can’t afford a divorce and I can’t afford my half of the bills on my own. The state that I live in is a no fault state and split 50/50. I will be losing my house because we will have to sale it and I won’t be able to make a profit. She will most likely be going after my retirement because the state says she gets half, and she’s doing everything against me even though I’m willing to work with her. There’s a chance the court will make me pay her child support because I make more, even though custody goes on a parental sharing program. I am literally losing everything except 50% custody of my children. I have not done any wrong doing and this is still what happens.
My kids are my world. There mom and I always worked opposite schedules. I was the one who was with the kids every night doing homework, dinner, soccer practices, coaching, taking care of the house and just being there. It sounds cliche but I really am a hard working man/father/ and I was a good husband. I work a full-time job, a per diem and am currently enrolled back into college to become a teacher.
I would like to be able to continue the things I am doing do be able to provide for my children. I will never make their mom look bad to them but I have no idea what she is doing or what’s going on with her.
A goal for me is to raise $25,000. Honestly any amount will help me, but That amount will cover my bills and schooling, especially after what she takes from me.
She has broken me and It has been family and friends to tell me this isn’t my fault and that I am a good person. I’m not afraid of the divorce, I am afraid of not being able to provide and make ends meet for my children.
Thank you for taking the time to read my story