For me to request this kind of help from some kindhearted strangers is very difficult and very humbling to me in many ways.
First in formost, I want to thank you for taking the time to read this plea for help. This has been a very difficult year for me and my family. I am a teacher, a mom of two girls and a wife. I have been diagnosed with PTSD ( from a physically, emotionally, verbally and mentally abusive marriage that I put up with for seven years), anxiety disorder, depression, panic disorder and Crohn’s disease.
I experienced difficulty with my health right at the beginning of this school year. The medication that I was taking to control my serotonin levels stopped working after having served my mental illness needs very well for over 25 years. Due to having to get my medication readjusted, completely changed, allow myself time for it to kick in and make a difference; I had to leave work and go on FMLA for over almost two months. I did not get paid while I was on FMLA. Sadly, I was not approved for any kind of financial assistance since I did not work at that school district for a long enough period of time to meet the requirements.
Finally, I went back to school and happily began teaching again. Shortly after that, my daughter expressed to her pediatrician that she felt very depressed and that she just didn’t want to wake up anymore. Not only were we completely crushed that she would feel this way; we were also completely shocked and confused because we did not see any of this coming or any symptoms of what she was saying she was feeling.
My daughter ended up needing to go into an inpatient Behavioral Health Facility for about a week and a half. I had to take intermittent FMLA leave during that time as well so that I could be there for her, as this was a very difficult time in her life. Each of those days were also unpaid.
My daughter transferred from inpatient to the outpatient school and did a nice job and eventually went back to her normal public school.
I do still have to take off time from work for meetings with therapists and her psychiatrist, and also to meet the other requirements that are expected of me (as the mom and her main support system) from the many WellSpan Behavioral Health programs that have been offered to my daughter.
After she had returned home from the inpatient Behavioral Health Facility, she and her sister came to me with some very sad and disturbing information that ended up leading to a very difficult situation. Both of my daughters informed me that they were being abused and this led to multiple protection from abuse petitions being filed and temporarily granted by the judge against their father and stepmother. Due to lawyers being hired, petitions for custody being filed and money that we really didn’t have to spend, spent, we started really struggling financially.
We currently have a full blown custody battle going on and the money that we put down for the retainer for our first lawyer (which was a criminal lawyer to help file charges against the abusive parents) has already exhausted itself and the expectation for a new retainer has arrived.
I also have to hire a family law lawyer to fight for custody of my children since their father is now coming after me for full custody. This will be about another $3500-$4000 that we don’t have.
After my daughter returned to school, I worked for about a month and then I had another health issue come up.
My dog accidentally nipped at my nose as he was playing with our other dog and I got my face a little too close to the action. My little dog wasted no time his daily regiment of proving to everyone that he is alpha and I ended with a very small amount of broken skin on my nose from it. As time went by the scratch became infected with impetigo and it ate all the way up into the cartilage of the tip of my nose, spread all over my face, my back, my legs and my belly. I went to two different hospitals to see if they could stitch up the hole in my nose.
( I have attached a picture. I am sorry it is so gross ) Unfortunately, neither hospital could help me. The second hospital that I visited made it clear this was way above their abilities and that I would need to referred to a plastic surgeon.
I had a contagious skin infection, and again I was not allowed to work. I had to go on FMLA for a second time this school year. I did not get paid during that time off either.
I also had medical bills starting to rack up and possible plastic surgery in my future.
After my impetigo infection had healed; I did return to school for about two days, and then I got called into the school’s Assistant Principal’s office where I was told that I was to go to the administration building to meet with human resources.
When I got there I found out that I was being suspended from school due to the fact that another teacher had made false allegations of me. All of these allegations have been unfounded and false and I have been cleared from any criminal charges by the police and the DA.
Sadly, this is a slow process even if you are innocent and I am still waiting to return to work.
I have been struggling massively with my depression and just keep trying to push myself through each day. Due to the fact that these false allegations were of a criminal nature, my husband I had to hire another criminal lawyer and Private investigator.
We have had to cut back significantly on our spending as we do not have any extra money left.
We have had to give up a lot of the things that we used to enjoy doing together as a family simply because there is no money.
Later today, I have to go in to the dentist to get the final part of a permanent bridge put into my mouth. I am over $10,000 in debt for dental work due to the depletion of my calcium levels caused by Crohn’s disease.
Before I could get any work done in my mouth, I had to pay the bill in full. The dental office assured me that they would submit the claim to my dental insurance. The bill was over $4000. My husband and I were hoping that the insurance company would cover most of that but it turned out they only covered about $136 of the total bill.
My husband is extremely stressed out over the amount of money that we have pulled out of a second mortgage that we had to open and now he is experiencing
so much stress and anxiety that he is showing heart attack symptoms. He was referred to a cardiologist and did have an EKG done which led to a necessary stress test. We are waiting to get confirmation from the doctor to see if he needs to get a stint put into his left ventricle. His insurance will not cover this procedure in full as they did not cover the stress test or EKG in full either.
I’m constantly in the negative in my bank account and we are now at the point where we have had to come and find a website, like this one, and practically beg people we don’t know for money.
If it wasn’t for my children and not being able to provide for them, I would not be on this site asking for money. I know there are people out there who need it more than I do.
We need some help from somebody out there who has some extra funds and can help a family who is desperately in need of money to be able to pay off bills, lawyer fees, medical fees and lost wages. It seems like this year we keep getting hit by a storm that just does not end.
Every single person in my family has their own personal therapist to help us work through the aftermath of the tough year that we have just walked through.
More than ever I want to be able to provide a home for my children where they can have their own bedrooms and their own space as they are now becoming teenagers. For years, I raised my girls by myself and I struggled with money, but I never got to the point where I had to basically beg for help. God has never let me sink and/or drown in the debts that I owe, and I truly believe that he is taking care of me and is watching over me and my family in this situation as well.
If anybody out there can help us with any sort of monetary donation it would mean more than you will ever know. I do not know how much we will be able to express our thanks and gratitude for your kindness and generosity.
I do promise that one day once we get our funds back in order, that we will come back onto this website and help somebody else who is in need.
I want to be a mom who is able to provide for her children a nice life with things to look forward to like roller skating, bowling or even going to a movie. My girls deserve that. I do not want to feel like I’ve let them down.
Despite the mental illnesses that I endure every single day, I still push forward and do whatever I can to make money to help try to make ends meet. Thank you so much for listening to my story and for possibly considering to help me, my girls and my husband out in anyway that you can…even if it is just a prayer. May God bless you and again thank you for any thing that you monetarily can donate to help me and my family out with our needs during this horrible struggle. It means more than you’ll ever be able to comprehend. Thank you!
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