Hi i’m 21 years old and my dad is 53. My dad has very very bad back pain he is on multiple medications including anti-anxiety and some very strong painkillers for his back. My dad is out of it most of the time and can’t really do things outside of the house by himself. I also don’t go out a lot like I used to with friends because I am worried about my father and his wellbeing. PIP payments would help a lot with this but they are increasingly difficult to get a hold of and the people assessing my father do not seem one bit sympathetic, over the phone they are blunt and presumptuous its really horrible.
I am worried almost all the time when I leave my dad at home in the house we don’t get paid a lot we are on universal credit as it is very hard for me to find employment at the moment as I do not want to be leaving my dad in house for long periods of time where he might want to cook for himself and possibly injure himself or damage the property we live in badly. Property damage has occurred in the past and is why I am so worried about this. This in turn is making it very difficult for me to seek employment which balances it out so I can make sure my father’s wellbeing is okay.
He does things like going to make food in the kitchen and nearly burns the whole house down or burns himself badly. He starts doing one thing and wonders off forgets what he’s doing and starts doing another thing and that can be dangerous when you involve kettle’s ovens and deep-fat fryers which we have all of in my house.
We are basically living pay check to pay check and have only just been paid and already run out of money. We are struggling very hard my dad has depression and I’m starting to think I do too, I’m trying to help my dad claim PIP payments but they make it so so so hard and very difficult. They do not seem sympathetic at all but its best to just keep trying. I mean who would employ a 53 year old with very bad back pain who is prescribed prescription painkillers basically heroin (Di-hydra codeine) and anti anxiety meds which make him “floaty” and not know what’s going on. Both of these meds combined means my dad literally doesn’t know what’s happening right in front of him some of the time. Or forgets what he’s been doing/what he was just doing or what he’s going to do. Its a struggle everyday and I’m basically looking after him on my own without any government help which I have been trying to achieve.
This month I was sanctioned as my dad had a complete mental breakdown and I missed one of my appointments, I tried explaining this to a job coach but they wouldn’t listen and sanctioned me anyway which left me with £144 for the whole month which of course isn’t going to cover pretty much anything at all after all the bills we need to pay.
We are struggling very very very hard and i’ve already maxxed out the debt on my unarranged overdraft to be able to supply us with warmth and some food.
Any donations would help us through the month please and thank you.