Hi all- My name is Yonie- I’m 25 years old, and desperately need help paying for my mouth reconstruction. . I know many of you might think dental work is a luxury. But for a surviving rape victim it would be a chance to not only a new smile, better health and a chance to finally eat my meals and enjoy them.But to also know what it’s like for people to not make fun of my mouth, or have constant bad breath & toothaches so bad it keeps you up all night.
I grew up in a very abusive/strict housing, notice I said housing now home? Growing up I wasn’t happy , but I was grateful for the little I did have. But after my 12 birthday, things took a change for the worse. I was sexually and mentally abused , and by a very abusive dad who wanted a daughter and wife all in one. it lasted until I was 18.I was beaten, neglected when it came to health visits, kept home from school, and force to perform sexual acts to earn the privilege to eat, get money for clothes and and other things a teenage girl might need growing up. All while still having to pretend ( out of fear for me and my younger siblings) that everything was okay. After years of assault and trying to survive, one last physical and mental abuse session had forced me to move out.
Fast forward 7 years later and I’m still trying to fix the issue and situations I had no choice in, which brings me to why I’m asking for help. Over the years my mouth have been decaying despite me trying to keep everything in tack, I don’t smoke nor do I do any other drugs. Yet my teeth won’t stay in my mouth . I was told at 13 on one of my rare dentist visits, that by 20 I’d have either have no teeth left or would be wearing dentures. I’ve lost most of my teeth already, and some are broken down because of desperate acts to get the pain to stop. I can’t chew food properly, It hurts to chew. It hurts brushing my teeth or if cold or hot things come in contact with my mouth. I have seen many dentists looking for a solutions , but they all tell me the same thing.. That my mouth has too many damages and would need more work then I could afford.
I’ve been trying to save money to get my mouth fixed, but with all my other expenses and financial problems .. I can’t catch a break here. I’m tired of crying about it because tears don’t help and self pity doesn’t either.
Which leads me to asking for help, I have gone to a cosmetic dentist to see what can be done to stop further loss of teeth and possibly just get the bad ones removed until I could afford to do more. But like I’ve mentioned before things are now so bad, my mouth reconstruction would costs a total of $58k. Dental insurance won’t cover anything, and I’ve been searching high and low for a solution but sadly to no avail.
Honestly I know that’s a lot of money, but anything helps! And I’d be beyond grateful for any help big or small. Even a prayer or advice if anyone knows of sites or programs that can’t at least lessen the financial stress. I would love to just feel confident again and not be in pain or be constantly reminded of that horrible time in my life .